Cheeky Charmer Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 This girl I know (well, she started working in my office a few weeks ago.... I know it's a bad idea but when you like someone and all that), she knows I'm keen and since Valentines day we've been e-mailing and texting each other quite a lot. I have always loved the thrill of the chase so didn't wanna just ask her out. We really enjoy each others company - so much so to the point that I asked her out. As I thought she would she accepted. More texts followed but last night she texts me and says she's not looking for anythings serious. I never mentioned anything serious. She still wants to go out for a drink though..... but as friends more so. Now I'm confused. Do you think this means permanently back off, she wants to take things slowly or is she just wary of taking up with someone she works with? As I say prior to that text everything was working perfectly and she was loving my charm. Link to comment
json Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 she is probably intiminated by you, but still wants to go out with the no tag lines setup on it. i would say just back off a little and go out and dont expect much and i bet she will end up really changing her tune. Link to comment
Cheeky Charmer Posted February 22, 2009 Author Share Posted February 22, 2009 I don't think I'm an intimidating kind of person though.... plus it's not like I'd backed her into a corner and demanded a date. Link to comment
waveseer Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 Maybe she thinks you were a bit too smooth. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 You said that you asked her out. Asking someone out, means you'd like more and she interpreted your asking her out, as meaning you want more... Hence her text, she isn't looking for anything serious, than what you both have right now. 'I'm not looking for anything serious' is something I'd say to a guy I wasn't interested in 'that' way in and without hurting his feelings. However, she could genuinely not want anything serious at the minute. Not everyone is looking for the serious stuff. Link to comment
Cheeky Charmer Posted February 22, 2009 Author Share Posted February 22, 2009 It's just from her behaviour she seems to have shown an initial interest. She still wants to go out..... but I don't know if she has got cold feet on it all. I perhaps do try to be a bit too smooth at times......she was loving it though so that's why i upped it in the 1st instance. Link to comment
waveseer Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 It's just from her behaviour she seems to have shown an initial interest. She still wants to go out..... but I don't know if she has got cold feet on it all. I perhaps do try to be a bit too smooth at times......she was loving it though so that's why i upped it in the 1st instance. Many women will eat it up but it makes the smart ones wary at the same time. Link to comment
bostonbruins24 Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 I wouldn't go out with her for a drink,unless she has a friend that you may be interested in.She's not interested . Link to comment
Shudder Posted February 23, 2009 Share Posted February 23, 2009 go for a drink with her and see... most likely you'll find your answer when you guys interact. i'm in a similar situation, but i'm just going for coffee to find out what this girl is up to or even looking for... Link to comment
D_Lish Posted February 23, 2009 Share Posted February 23, 2009 she was loving it though so that's why i upped it in the 1st instance.... Well if you are paying compliments and making her feel special....course she's gonna like it. Just because we lap it up, doesn't mean we want to marry you and have your babies....LOL And as readytoheal said.....women may lap it up, but the wise and ungullible remain cautious to the smoothies. And sometimes, too much smoothie talk comes accross as trying too hard, reeks of desperation and that can be off putting. Link to comment
stella74 Posted February 23, 2009 Share Posted February 23, 2009 The only way you'll know what she means is to ask her. She could mean she's not interested in you as more than a friend, she could mean she doesn't want to date a co-worker, or she could mean you moved in too quickly for her and she wants things to be more casual. In any case, take her at her word. She's not interested in anything serious, so that means she's not available for serious dating or a relationship with you, at least not right now. Link to comment
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