thistime Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 i am 38, and I have an 11 1/2 yr old daughter. my bf has no children, and i know he wants one someday becasue we have talked about it, but he moves very slow in a relationship, and honestly, i doubt we would even be married a year or two from now, and i guess my question is...if he and I dont get married for 2 or more years, I will be over 40, and not have had a child for 14 years. Is it dumb of me to think this is possible? will it be safe/ I guess i am fearful of birth defects, and the fact that i wont be able to run after a toddler like I did when I was 28! What if he and I wait and then we cant, or the risks are too high/ i'm afraid he will resent me for not being able to give hima child... Link to comment
shikashika Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 My aunts and several friends have had happy healthy children after the age of 40. I think it's a lot more common now. Link to comment
nurse1986 Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 You can still have children. You're still young. Link to comment
TheSmilingTurnip Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 Of course there is a chance you might not be able to get pregnant. But there is also that chance in a 25 year old or a 30 year old. How is your body -- is it young and well taken care of? Are you healthy? Another question might be - have you talked to your bf about this? About the realities of fertility? Perhaps you might be surprised by his answers. And adoption is an option too. Good luck! Link to comment
Anna. Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 Talk to him openly and honestly about it and see how he feels and what you both want. Personally, I think it's fine. If you can and want to conceive, more power to you. Link to comment
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