Giving Head

[CrazyKarl13]

Hey whats up. Well, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 7 months, and have been sexually active for the last two. I have never given him head, we just basically went straight to sex. Now that we are pretty far into our relationship, I'm more comfortable giving him head. The only thing is I don't know how to do it! If someone doesn't feel awkward explaining it to me, that would be GREAT! Also, if you could just be a bit specific.. because I'm not very familiar with male anatomy terms, so like describing exactly where it is you should focus on would be great! Thanks so much! Hope this isn't too stupid lol.

[TrappedMind]

Well there are a couple of rules to follow.

 

1. Don't bite it.

2. Don't scratch it with your teeth, *ouch*

 

Just watch porno movies to find out good ways of how to do it!

[JSHRN]

Whatever you call it, "fellatio," a "blow job," or "giving head," peforming oral sex on a man is a skill that's well worth refining. Having one's genitals lovingly ministered to by a delicate mouth feels wonderful and is an expression of intimacy and trust. Plus, it's just downright hot!

 

Here's How:

 

1. Consider bathing. If you're new to oral sex, you might be worried about taste and smell. You can just dive in and enjoy your boyfriend's natural fragrances, or you can suggest a sexy bath or shower together if you'd rather start with a clean slate. You can also add a bit of flavored lubricant to his penis or put on a flavored condom, which is great for safe oral sex.

 

2. Get comfortable. Your comfort is key to your enjoyment, and fellatio puts a particular strain on your neck and jaw. Kneeling before him on a pillow, while he's standing or sitting, gives you good range of motion and plenty of access. Or he can lie on his back and you can crouch in between his legs, a position that gives you lots of control.

 

3. Touch. Using your hands first, gently caress his inner thighs, penis, testicles, and perineum, paying attention to his reactions (verbal and facial) as you touch certain spots. The most sensitive spot on a guy's penis is the head (known as the glans), especially the frenulum, an indentation between the glans and the shaft on the underside of the penis.

 

4. Give him a lick. Follow up with your tongue, exploring the same terrain using slow wide strokes with your tongue. Don't be afraid to use lots of saliva, as this natural lube feels great and helps create friction and suction. If you're practicing safer sex, or you're not crazy about your boyfriend's taste, put on a condom and/or some flavored lubricant.

 

5. Take him in your mouth. When he's semi-erect, slowly guide your lips over the tip of his penis, making sure your lips cover your teeth as you slide gently down his shaft as far as you're comfortable. Keep your mouth taut, as the pressure from your lips will feel great as they glide down his penis.

 

6. Watch the gag reflex. If you're not adept at deep throat (taking the whole penis in your mouth), don't try it or you'll trigger the gag reflex. It's not necessary and a similar effect can be achieved with the hand and mouth technique described below. With practice, you can learn to relax your gag reflex and take in more of the penis.

 

7. Mouth and tongue. As your head travels up the underside of his penis, flatten your tongue so it gives his frenulum a nice wide, wet stroke. Don't be afraid to try different types of licks or kisses—the lips feel good when popped over the ridge of the penis—but perform each stroke repeatedly before changing to give consistent pleasure.

 

A great blow job incorporates both hands and mouth. Place one hand around the shaft of his penis while you move up and down on the top half of his penis. Try coordinating your movements so your hand and mouth are going up and down in unison. If you're boyfriend is thrusting, your hand will prevent his penis from being pushed too far into your mouth.

 

If he likes this combination, bring your hand all the way up the shaft (following your mouth), remove your mouth briefly, use your palm to slide and twist over the head (as if you were juicing an orange), and then glide your hand back down followed by your mouth again. Repeat.

 

Let him come. When he's ready to orgasm, keep your movements consistent and firm—don't slack off. Once he starts ejaculating, see him through with a few strokes and then stop, as most men don't want continued stimulation once they've come.

 

To swallow or not? This decision is entirely up to you. There's nothing wrong with you if you don't want to, but it's nice to let your partner know it's nothing personal. If you don't want to swallow, remove your mouth as he's about to ejaculate, and continue hand stroking through his orgasm.

 

Tips

 

1. Try lightly licking or touching his testicles during oral sex. He might also like them to be cradled gently in one of your hands.

 

2. You can also apply pressure to his perineum (the spot between his anus and his penis) with one or two fingers, as this also can feel good.

 

3. He might like wearing a butt plug during oral sex for added prostate stimulation. Or you can apply pressure to his anus with one of your fingers.

 

4. A penis ring wrapped around the base of his penis will help to keep him erect, and can elevate his sensitivity during oral sex.

 

 

Hope this helps. Have fun!

 

JSHRN

[TrappedMind]

LOL, well there you go!

[Derek]

DANG! That was an encyclopedic response JSHRN!

That should be a sticky post. Well done.

 

I was thinking what TrappedMind said,

There is tons of video "porn" on the internet that would probably

show you the basics in 10 seconds, for educational purposes only of course.

 

If you want something advanced beyond that,

try doing the what JSHRN said, but with an ice cube in your

mouth or a carbonated drink or wine even.

Oh and look up the word Teabagging.

 

 

[lil_mamarains13]

That was a good response JSHRN. I don't think anyone els could have put it any better.

[CrazyKarl13]

Okay that sounds good! haha. the only question is just that I dont really know the male terms. Like when you say shaft and what not! I don't know the places that feel good! I guess I could find out, but I think I would seem more experienced if I already knew lol. Thanks

[JSHRN]

Ask your boyfriend what he likes and what feels good to him. Be playful and experiment with different techniques. Don't worry that you haven't done this before - there's no proper or best way to do it. use your imagination. Alternate sucking with licking the head and shaft. Flick your tongue rapidly around the head. Lick or nibble the scrotum. Stroke the shaft with one or both hands while sucking or licking the head. Cup and fondle the scrotum while sucking. Alternate sucking with gently squeezing the head or shaft between your thumb and forefinger. Gently slap his penis against your lips or outstretched tongue. Speak up: If you think his penis is beautiful, by all means, say so. Everyone likes compliments. If you enjoy giving head, mention that as well. Most men get turned on knowing that a lover enjoys giving them pleasure.

 

Everyone is different. What one man loves, another man hates.

Talk to your boyfriend about his likes and dislikes, and you too can be a blowjob queen!

[CrazyKarl13]

Thanks. Gosh, why do all guys have to be different?! Haha gosh why cant they all be the same.. heh, oh well!! I'll see what I can do.. but I still get nervous!!