InvisibleWound Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Ok I am starting a new thread because this issue is somewhat different. I posted a thread not that long ago on something similar: Anyways I was talking to my dad last night on the phone, he said his workers quit who were scooping berries with him. He only has 2 fields to do but he doesn’t go everyday. He divides his time between fishing and scooping berries, plus the rainy days he can’t do anything anyways. Out of the blue I pretty much said if he wanted I should help, he was cool with that, but I had to tell him I had to think of it. I kind of know what I want to do. But I had to tell my boyfriend what I was thinking about. For anyone who read my last thread, a similar issue like this came up and when I told my boyfriend he started crying and stuff. Anyways last night in bed I told him. This is kinda how our conversation went... Me: “I’m thinking of scooping berries with my dad. It is not a lot of money but it is something I did before, and there is about a month of work left.” Him: “So your moving to your parents house?” Me: “No, I was thinking of helping my dad out, he will pay me for it. The days he does not go I can come back and see you. He doesn’t do it everyday since he still fishes and rainy days he can’t go anyways...” Him: “I don’t know why you just don’t get a real job, no offence. Your opportunity for jobs here is closing since high school students are applying to jobs now too.” Me: “I can still apply to jobs here, but I don’t know how long I should wait around for a interview call. The longer I wait will mean I miss days I could go berrying... But I have not decided yet.” Him: “Well its up to you... I just think it would make more sense to get a job in town.” Me: “Like I said I will apply to jobs here. But if nothing works out here again then I think I should go and do that. It’s a guaranteed job for the time being and all.” Anyways if anyone was confused (me means I was talking and him means my boyfriend was talking) that is how our conversation went. He didn’t cry this time. I can tell he is not impressed with what I want to do though and sounded slightly angry while we talked about it... I really don’t know what to do. Jobs are limited enough for me here with my anxiety BS making it harder to get jobs as it is... I told him about that too and how its really bringing me down, and all he said was that I had to get over my fear of people or I won’t be able to function in society. Which is true. I am terrified to go to a doctor because if medication is needed I don’t have the money... But anyhow I don’t know what to do. This sucks a lot. I am really depressed right now because if I leave I am worried that something in our relationship will go wrong. Yeah distance sucks, but we need money to get by... I don’t know I just feel really smothered by his reaction to stuff like this and kinda controlled Any help? Advice, please... Link to comment
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