Andue Posted June 27, 2008 Share Posted June 27, 2008 I asked this girl if she liked me or just wanted to be real good friends? She told me that she liked me. This was awhile back maybee 2 months. I kept pushing her to go out but she said she had some family problems. Its been a little while since i asked her that first time, but we finally went out to lunch the other day.. So i decided to ask her again if she liked me or just wanted to be friends..She said this time maybee. I said I would be ok with if she just wanted to be friends. She said she was not to sure about anythnig and said maybee again..She also said she was going to keep that answer to her self. I dunno what this means at all why cant she just give me a yes or no answer? I think I came off a little deseparate and needy and that might be a big turn off..Maybee I should step back and leave her alone for a few weeks? My friend asked her if she liked me and she said he is one of the nicest guys she has ever met..I really like this girl, but I dunno if its just a bunch of false hope...I also stated that I didnt want to bug her and that if my flirting, and trying to win her heart would bother her, and she said no..But that she didnt want me to think that she was just trying to lead me on if thinks didnt work out... p.s. One thing I would like to add...At the beginning of all this she would come up to me and flirt and say silly things why wont you marry me etc...She was really flirty to me I really didnt even know her to much at this time...Time went by and one day she tells me that she had a dream that we got married...So I decided to flirt back...So i kept pestering her to do something with me, and I think deseparate is the fastest way to turn off a woman..So maybee me being to desperate for her has turned things around... Link to comment
ghost69 Posted June 27, 2008 Share Posted June 27, 2008 i don't think she is interested. sounds like she is being nice to your face and to your friend about you. trying to let you down easy. Link to comment
bartels Posted June 27, 2008 Share Posted June 27, 2008 Yes you are coming accross as desperate. Yes that's a big turn off and yes, she is probably just "appeasing you" because she doesn't know how else to get rid of you. You need to learn how to back it off somewhat and let them come to you to some extent. When you are doing all the contacting and you know you are "pushing her", then you are in definite need of a time out. Learn from it. Stop contacting her. Let her come to you, if she doesn't, then you know for sure. She may even come looking for you when she sees the change. Link to comment
teddybear123 Posted June 27, 2008 Share Posted June 27, 2008 Ugh!!! Common Sense will tell you a maybe means NO! Link to comment
leo_s84 Posted June 28, 2008 Share Posted June 28, 2008 Stop asking girls if they like you or not... Next time just go with the flow, some things are better left unsaid Link to comment
Andue Posted June 28, 2008 Author Share Posted June 28, 2008 Well honestly if i walk near her she will put on a big smile and ask me how Im doing...Ive actually walked away from her a few times because I had work to do or something...I just decided to call her an apologize for being so annoying with the do you like me questions? I also said im not going down that road anymore and it is what it is...She said thats ok and that she had a really good time at lunch...What Im really asking is can you turn that needy desperate thing around so maybee you can get her attention again? I know she liked me at one point she even stated that, but my deseperation pretty much turned her off... Link to comment
loveorlust Posted June 28, 2008 Share Posted June 28, 2008 don't apologize for things like that. you're putting yourself in the friend zone. and she already thinks of you as a really nice guy. which is bad news for you. i would just stop contacting her for now and leave her be. maybe talk to her once a week or something. Link to comment
Andue Posted July 6, 2008 Author Share Posted July 6, 2008 Ya guess I kinda of acted childish, but I really do like this girl... Sometimes I think woman will do that to you I cant figure out how to get a date outta her ;O...Going to take a vacation for 2 weeks gonna see how things go when I get back maybee try an take it slow, and be more confident... Link to comment
CaptainPlanet Posted July 6, 2008 Share Posted July 6, 2008 It means maybe, like she is not sure if she wants to go out with you or not. Just keep trying girls are meant to be chased. They don't like it.. well tough. Link to comment
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