mfan Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 Most lists of "questions women like to be asked" suggest this as a nice way of complimenting someone. I often like something in particular about what a girl is wearing, so the compliment would be totally sincere. But, I'm a 31-year-old guy, I know very little about designers or brands or clothing stores, and it seems inappropriate for me to ask "where did you get it/them?" if I don't expect to understand the answer. Is it dishonest or inappropriate for me to ask this? Or do girls not mind at all? If this is a bad question, then what's a good follow-up question after complimenting someone's article of clothing or accessory? thanks so much! Link to comment
HealingHandsWarmHeart Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 why not just say ... "that necklace is very flattering on you" or whatever it is your are complimenting... because if a man told me he liked my shirt and asked me where i go it- i honestly would think he had a girlfriend or he wanted one for himself... Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 I don't think you should ask "where did you get it?" Just say "I really like that _____" or "You look great in that _____" As far as a follow up question - is it someone you know or people you come accross and would like to get to know? Link to comment
pryda Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 Yeah, by all means compliment someone on what they're wearing but I see no need to ask where they got it. Men aren't really supposed to know anything about brands/shopping. Link to comment
Nixee Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 I agree.... men who ask me where I got something... well.. that is reserved for either my gay guy friends or boyfriends who are shopping for me On the other hand, women generally LOVE to hear that a particular item is especially complementary to them... and feel free to be specific too. For example: "That shirt brings out your eyes" or "that color is amazing with your hair" etc. Just be genuine though. Follow up question... I guess that depends on context. Are you using these compliments as opening lines to hit on women and hopefully break the ice and get a date... or are you already on a date and trying to get closer to them? Link to comment
mfan Posted May 28, 2008 Author Share Posted May 28, 2008 is it someone you know or people you come accross and would like to get to know? It's someone I would like to get to know better. I'd like to not just give a compliment but also ask a question, because that can start a nice conversation. But, other than "Where did you get it", what are some better ideas for a question on this topic? Thanks for your help so far. Link to comment
lillie Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 If you were gay it would be fine to ask where they got their things from,but i wouldnt expect it from a straight guy.. No offence meant,but my gay friends are worse than my girlfriends for liking clothes & accessories... Link to comment
bicksford Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 A lot of girls will compliment me on a new shirt or something and ask me where I got it. I always feel weird when they ask me that. Sometimes I don't even want to tell them where I got it. Link to comment
Penny_Lane Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 "those are nice jeans, it makes your ass look great". Personally, as long as you're honest and yourself, whatever you wanna say is fine by me. Link to comment
wurth_skidder Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 I like to take the teasing route. I'll walk up to a girl and look at her purse and say, "Wow, that's a small purse. At least I know you aren't carrying any concealed weapons," or vice versa. Link to comment
silentbutdeadly Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 thats a pretty big purse what r u carrying a gun in there Link to comment
odile Posted June 11, 2008 Share Posted June 11, 2008 I see no need to ask "where did you get it", but if you are interested in knowing, I see no harm in asking, either. I know plenty of straight guys who are interested in design, so to say it labels someone as gay is just silly. Anyway, ask if you want to know, don;t ask if you could care less, but either way, a genuine compliment is always appreciated! Link to comment
capbit Posted June 11, 2008 Share Posted June 11, 2008 It's someone I would like to get to know better. I'd like to not just give a compliment but also ask a question, because that can start a nice conversation. But, other than "Where did you get it", what are some better ideas for a question on this topic? Thanks for your help so far. Like others have said, just compliment her. If she's friendly and says more than just 'thanks' you can easily start a friendly conversation with her. Don't worry if it's gay to ask a girl where she got an item if it really does interest you (But it does seem to be the consensus here). Don't worry if you don't know what she's talking about, just say 'well, you have very good taste' or something along those lines. Link to comment
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