hangingaround Posted May 15, 2008 Share Posted May 15, 2008 I'm 24 right now and I've never really been comfortable asking a girl out, I guess I'm sort of shy. As I look back on my past I see a bunch of different relationships that could have happened if I made a move. Right now I have a feeling that a girl likes me but I'm scared to take the chance of being rejected. I really feel like asking her out for coffee or dinner. I really want to get to know her better. I'm trying so hard to get over that hurdle of fear. Does anyone have any tips? Link to comment
aesop921 Posted May 15, 2008 Share Posted May 15, 2008 The only advice I can give is that you have to take that chance, just go for it and ask her out to coffee... if you don't it will only add to the regret you have for those other relationship possibilities, and that is much worse than the regret you will have if you are rejected. If you have even the littlest idea that she likes you, you have nothing at all to lose by asking her to coffee. If you are just very calm and casual when you ask her out to coffee, get her number, and it should be fine. Link to comment
NoPainNoGain Posted May 15, 2008 Share Posted May 15, 2008 Gotta take her out and show her a good time.... Link to comment
CrazyKing Posted May 15, 2008 Share Posted May 15, 2008 No risk, no fun... I don't have anything better to reply, that's how it worked for me... Link to comment
ghost69 Posted May 15, 2008 Share Posted May 15, 2008 you just do it. seriously. that's how you get used to it. Link to comment
hockeyplaya44 Posted May 15, 2008 Share Posted May 15, 2008 Have you ever regretted forcing yourself to do something everyone else says is fun when you're too nervous to try it? (this doesn't pertain to drugs lol) I know in my experience whenever I just dive into things it always turns out well. I recently signed with Michigan to play hockey which is a long way from home. I'm sort of scared to leave home but I know if I force myself to go I'm going to have a blast. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted May 15, 2008 Share Posted May 15, 2008 did you dive into a pool the first time and start doing the olympics. nope. practice man. Link to comment
hockeyplaya44 Posted May 15, 2008 Share Posted May 15, 2008 did you dive into a pool the first time and start doing the olympics. nope. practice man. was this to me, or the topic starter? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted May 15, 2008 Share Posted May 15, 2008 was this to me, or the topic starter? the OP and anybody who is scared. Link to comment
hangingaround Posted May 15, 2008 Author Share Posted May 15, 2008 Thanks for all the responses, I think I have finally convinced myself that I have to do it. I will let everyone know the outcome later. Right now I feel very confident which is great, hopefully I will come back with good news. Link to comment
kuiks8 Posted May 16, 2008 Share Posted May 16, 2008 The thing you have to keep in mind when making your decision is what do you have to lose. Absolutely nothing and yet you have so much to gain. So definitely take the chance. Be open, smile and natural and I am sure you will do just fine! Link to comment
Lauren8785 Posted May 16, 2008 Share Posted May 16, 2008 Thanks for all the responses, I think I have finally convinced myself that I have to do it. I will let everyone know the outcome later. Right now I feel very confident which is great, hopefully I will come back with good news. Good luck! That's all you can be is confident and be proud your taking this risk. Its a risk that you will probably be glad you took. If she rejects you fine, there are plenty of other women who will want to get to know you just as much as you want to get to know them!!!! If she doesn't totally awesome and take it one step at a time !! Link to comment
hangingaround Posted May 16, 2008 Author Share Posted May 16, 2008 Well I asked her last night and it seems she just started seeing someone so I probably should have asked sooner. But it feels good to get that feeling off my chest. It wasn't that bad actually and now I will feel no regret later. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted May 16, 2008 Share Posted May 16, 2008 now you can hit on someone else and make that move faster. Link to comment
NoPainNoGain Posted May 17, 2008 Share Posted May 17, 2008 Well I asked her last night and it seems she just started seeing someone so I probably should have asked sooner. But it feels good to get that feeling off my chest. It wasn't that bad actually and now I will feel no regret later. good job Link to comment
Lauren8785 Posted May 17, 2008 Share Posted May 17, 2008 YAY FOR COURAGE!!! Sorry she has someone but you will find someone too !! Link to comment
boo121 Posted May 18, 2008 Share Posted May 18, 2008 yes. you need to go up and ask her out. even if she says no, you'll be better off. Link to comment
hangingaround Posted May 19, 2008 Author Share Posted May 19, 2008 Thanks for the support Even though she said no, I still wonder how it could have been. I'm sure I'll get over her soon though. At least I know I did everything that I could have done. Link to comment
hmdreamer7 Posted May 19, 2008 Share Posted May 19, 2008 Hey, what's the worst that could happen? She could say no... and she did... and you're still okay! So just remember that next time - if you want to ask someone out and you get nervous, you have nothing to lose. Link to comment
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