Oktane Posted December 6, 2003 Share Posted December 6, 2003 When I was younger, I was just the biggest dork there ever was... I kept to myself, and was really quiet... Not many friends, no girls, ever... So I got used to it... I looked totally dorky, and when I look at old pictures, it drives me nuts. Around maybe 19-20, somehow I blossomed... I hate to say it, but I look good. And now at 22, probably look better than I ever have... But for some reason, I still have this complex... I know Im still kinda dorky... Im afraid of how girls react... Ive been on dates, and they never work, because I can't express myself in the way that I want to... I have some sort of problem to where it makes it hard for my real personality to come out in front of people... I can at bars, when Im drunk and singing karaoke, but other times it can be hard... It is hard, cause I see all these girls looking at me, but I get scared of rejection, and do nothing about it... and I have this friend, who has to be the best girl in the world, and she considers me one of her better friends... But because of a lack of personality, she never wants to be more than friends... I almost think that before I blossomed, I had more dates... I wasn't as self concient about things... I am at a point in my life where Im confused, and really don't know what to do with myself... I wish I could figure things out, but I don't know how... I wish I could fix it all! Link to comment
swift44 Posted December 6, 2003 Share Posted December 6, 2003 hey since u can get dates the u should just try to be yourself dont be nervous just think about what your gonna say before you say it just dont worry about what they think just say whats on your min if they dont like the real you they dont deserve you just try to calm down and think hope it works out for you best of luck to you. Link to comment
routerx Posted December 6, 2003 Share Posted December 6, 2003 You are taking your talents for granted. Other people see something in you that you don't see in yourself. Spend more time focusing on other people and less on yourself. In other words, stop looking in the mirror because you won't find what you are looking for. Spend your days giving complements, smiling, and helping people. The rest will take care of itself. When you care for others more than you care about how you appear, it all works out. That's it. Link to comment
ShadeOfGreen Posted December 7, 2003 Share Posted December 7, 2003 You already have an attractive personality. You just have to find out how to let people know it. If it comes down to a matter of conversation or expression than just talk to people and speak up when you want to. The amazing thing about people is how different we all are, and how no matter who you are, chances are there is someone somewhere who can relate to you. Let me tell you I am a pretty big dork myself. Yet, I have never let that get to me (well at least not since sophomore year of high school). For me its a matter of knowing who I am and being comfortable with that person. A lot of times it will be difficult to find out who that is, but you just need to say to yourself 'who am I? Who is the person I would like to be with? What is it that I love?'. If you take a good look inside yourself you may be surprized who you find. When you know yourself, you should have an easier time expressing yourself. Link to comment
Derek Posted December 7, 2003 Share Posted December 7, 2003 People are often found attractive when they have interests of their own that they are pursuing with purpose. Being attractive is about being a whole person. Have an opinion about stuff. Your own opinion. Have a direction you are going. It doesn't have to be perfect, but have something you are passionate about. (i.e. making mix CDs or sports or cars or whatever) Decide that you don't care about a girlfriend for a few months and what they *might* think, you just be yourself with your own opinions without a care in the world. Smile slyly like you know what you are doing. ( faking confidence makes one feel more confident ) When girls see that you seem to know where you are going and what you are doing and they will want some of that action too. Also, the a good way to be attractive is to spend the energy to pay attention, REALLY pay attention, to those around you, so that you notice and give feedback on the little things, then when they notice you've noticed, they will be impressed. When I say little things, it's like the color of eyes (a good exercise is to always try to read the eye color of everyone, forces you to look in their eyes a while) , buckle on the shoes, belt, her laugh, the color of her umbrella, type of car she might have, interests, stuff/books/music she likes/dislikes and her NAME of course. Then feed that stuff back to her in creative ways. ("I saw that your umbrella the other day was green, I thought you'd like this green scarf.") But don't be a stalker. Yes, it takes work to remember, just repeat it over and over in your head until it sticks. As others said, concentrate on the other people and worry less about yourself. Link to comment
Cid Posted December 7, 2003 Share Posted December 7, 2003 Just be your self and dont talk your self down. That is the key. Link to comment
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