this is going to hurt..."physically"

[party_of_italy]

i'm in love for the first time. and i have decided that he is the one i'm going to lose my virginity to. he's my first everything....except kiss. the thing is he was fingering me the other night, and he was getting a little rough especially with me being a virgin and all. not that i don't like it rough it's just that it hurt and i'm looking forward to sex. it's just that he has a very big penis size and i don't think he's ever had sex with a virgin before. any ways for us to make it hurt as less as possible my first time?

[Gilgamesh]

I just responded to a similar post

 

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You say you like it rough, but you really dont know this, I think like the idea of liking it rough.

 

Sex should not be painful, it should be a pleasent experience for both, now, the first times are usually not that pleasurable, and it makes it more difficult if both are inexperienced.

 

men with little experience think women are like them, that hard rough movments will feel good for their partners as it is for them. Its hard for them to imagine how such delicate touches and caresses can make a woman feel so good. they have to unlearn what they think pleases women, many have seen porn that is geared towards men, and there, all the woman like it rough, and fast, because thats what turns guys on visually. but most women are not like that at all in the real world.

 

By the way, make sure he uses a condom, yes you can become pregnant the first time. so be careful. I dont wanna scare you or anything, its just a fact of life thats all.

 

You need to explain to him that he needs to be gentle and he should get info on how to do it right so as to not hurt you. dont do anything until you are ready and feel secure. never let anyone pressure you into doing something you dont want to do. it must be something you want and feel ready for. sex can be a very pleasurable experience eventually, although it may not seem so the first few times, as both gain experience it can get better,If love is there, then it makes it 100 times better.

[S4il]

Can't Agree with Gilgamesh more. well said my friend

 

take what he said into consideration, because he really gave good detail into what your getting into, using a condom is the most important..!!! and if he says "well i don't use condoms" or "it doesn't feel right" than just say back

 

"well than you just are not going to get any"

 

it's your body, and you know what you want, keep that in mind, and it's going to hurt...use proper lube. (k-Y Jelly) is good. and if you bleed it's totally normal, nothing wrong with that, it's spoused to happen. good luck hope you have fun..

 

 

sex=fun...yea maybe after the 3rd time