redhotchilipepper Posted October 20, 2007 Share Posted October 20, 2007 Ok I have kept NC with my EX for over a week now and out of the blue her sister texts me asking me where her sister is. You would think that two sisters who talk to eachother every day would know whats going on in eachothers lives but apparently she had to call me full well knowing that I havent talked to her sister in a week. Is this some sort of a scam to try and get me excited or something or was she beeing serious or am I just going crazy and trying to find some hidden meaning out of this? Thanks Link to comment
vertex Posted October 20, 2007 Share Posted October 20, 2007 I don't think anyone here can answer that question for you. But I can say you may be looking too deeply into it. Ask her sister what's up, but try to keep it brief. Only she knows what's going on, and any speculation on our part is just that... speculation. Link to comment
Mavh25 Posted October 20, 2007 Share Posted October 20, 2007 Maybe they havent' seen her for a little while? Link to comment
OOHMY Posted October 20, 2007 Share Posted October 20, 2007 Shes trying to get you to show concern for the ex, don't talk to her. Its all games. Link to comment
redhotchilipepper Posted October 20, 2007 Author Share Posted October 20, 2007 Shes trying to get you to show concern for the ex, don't talk to her. Its all games. Yeah your probably right...I shouldnt have even replied. All I said was "Dont know dont care" Link to comment
OOHMY Posted October 20, 2007 Share Posted October 20, 2007 Yeah your probably right...I shouldnt have even replied. All I said was "Dont know dont care" Just don't say anything at all. Link to comment
Clarity Posted October 20, 2007 Share Posted October 20, 2007 Yeah, better to not say anything at all. "Don't know, don't care" sounds like the break is really affecting you - and now that information will get through to her. Focus on NC and don't communicate with the Ex, even through 3rd parties. Link to comment
OOHMY Posted October 20, 2007 Share Posted October 20, 2007 Yeh, it will give her an excuse, or its a phrase that she will think up upon. Wonder what it means and still try to contact you. She won't take it as a get away. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted October 20, 2007 Share Posted October 20, 2007 I think siblings of ex's contact their sister or brother's ex's not out of trying to get them to break NC but from sheer innocence not realizing that it is not a good idea. IF you were friendly with them, they don't always realize that during that break up first days and weeks, etc it is best not to contact you to not encourage breaking the NC deal. I don't think there was a hidden meaning in this at all. Link to comment
OOHMY Posted October 20, 2007 Share Posted October 20, 2007 I believe there is because shes using her sister as a way to get around the no contact to see whats up with him. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted October 21, 2007 Share Posted October 21, 2007 I believe there is because shes using her sister as a way to get around the no contact to see whats up with him. I disagree. Seems like an innocent phonecall and this happens all the time when people break up. The siblings don't realize it is a bad move in many cases. But neither of us really know for sure. All we can really say is try not to look for a hidden meaning and just move on. To the OP, if you had a friendly relationship wtih the sister ignoring her might not be very nice. Keep it civil unless you didn't like her all that much and would rather not say anything at all. Your comment of "don't know don't care" was just fine I think....it sent the message that she shouldn't ask you that question in the future. Link to comment
OOHMY Posted October 21, 2007 Share Posted October 21, 2007 The ex told her sister to talk to him, its obvious. HE NEEDS TO IGNORE her. Link to comment
Jess... Posted October 21, 2007 Share Posted October 21, 2007 I believe there is because shes using her sister as a way to get around the no contact to see whats up with him. The ex told her sister to talk to him, its obvious. No. It's not. My sister has contacted my ex numerous time behind my back, that I only find out about a few weeks down the track (when she lets it slip, or just throws it into casual conversation). I have asked her and asked her to stop it, and to cease contact with him, but she never does. You can't just assume this girl has asked her sister to text him - she may very well be in the same position I have been in so many times before. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted October 21, 2007 Share Posted October 21, 2007 The ex told her sister to talk to him, its obvious. HE NEEDS TO IGNORE her. There is nothing on earth in this thread to suggest this. So no, it is not obvious. You are inferring this, but there is nothing here to suggest it is the case. Link to comment
redhotchilipepper Posted October 21, 2007 Author Share Posted October 21, 2007 Sometimes people tell me Im paranoid but Ive experienced some pretty crazy stuff in the past so Im not throwing away the possibility of her asking her sister to do this. But then again it may very well be the opposite. Oh well I just want to move on anyway and not look back...Whats done is done. Link to comment
OOHMY Posted October 21, 2007 Share Posted October 21, 2007 Thank you red hot for proving that my advice is a possibility. Link to comment
Jess... Posted October 22, 2007 Share Posted October 22, 2007 Thank you red hot for proving that my advice is a possibility. Yeah, it's a possibility, but it's not "obvious". Link to comment
p_fred Posted October 22, 2007 Share Posted October 22, 2007 I agree with ignore it.. just delete the text and keep with NC. Unless..... maybe her sister likes you wants to date you now? LOL Link to comment
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