richie_nut Posted September 1, 2007 Share Posted September 1, 2007 I went into town last night for the first time as a single girl, been nearly two years now. And I absolutely hated it. Some drunken student started dancing with me and then "kissing" me (I use the term VERY loosely as it was more teeth gnashing, ugggghhh)...the whole thing freaked me out. I wasn't even attracted to him in any way. When he started touching me I nearly burst into tears thinking of my ex, who I thought I was well over (he has been my only boyfriend though, we were together over 3 years). People my age go out every weekend and kiss strangers willy nilly, no problem, so what the hell's wrong with me?? How am I supposed to "move on" if I flip at a guy dancing with me? God...I'm a loser lol I'm seriously starting to believe I'm incapable of being with anyone but my ex, which isn't even an option anymore as he's got a girlfriend now. Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 1, 2007 Share Posted September 1, 2007 no, maybe the breakup is still too new for you. it is natural to feel the way you do. you don't have to go and hook up with guys, it's ok to just relax and have fun and not worry about the guys. give it time. good luck Link to comment
hueman84 Posted September 1, 2007 Share Posted September 1, 2007 maybe you should actually try dating people, as opposed to going to some bar/club and getting grinded up on and randomly hooking up. Link to comment
richie_nut Posted September 1, 2007 Author Share Posted September 1, 2007 Yeah I would rather be properly dating as opposed to hooking up, but it seems people my age don't really do that...and I'm so shy I don't even know where to meet guys unless I've had enough to drink to make me somewhat sociable. Yuck. Not playing the poor me card...I'd like to think after 2 years the break-up isn't still affecting me but the way I instantly thought of my ex as soon as this guy came into the picture was really weird. Link to comment
hueman84 Posted September 1, 2007 Share Posted September 1, 2007 Yeah I would rather be properly dating as opposed to hooking up, but it seems people my age don't really do that...and I'm so shy I don't even know where to meet guys unless I've had enough to drink to make me somewhat sociable. Yuck. Not playing the poor me card...I'd like to think after 2 years the break-up isn't still affecting me but the way I instantly thought of my ex as soon as this guy came into the picture was really weird. Not everyone our age does that (im 23). Sure I have friends that go out to bars/clubs every now and then and like the random hook-up here and there, but its certainly not for everyone...especially when your uncomfortable with it. I feel you probably just pictured your ex because you were moving too fast for your own good. You didn't really get a chance to know this guy and instead just jumped to the end of date #1, 2 or 3 (aka the hook-up part). It sounds to me that you dont need to be going out to clubs/bars and randomly hooking up, you need to get to know someone before hooking up with them so your thinking about them and what they are all about...not your ex. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 4, 2007 Share Posted September 4, 2007 there has to be a coffee shop on or near campus. hit it up with a good book. i'll be there ready to talk to you. lol. but libraries, hangouts, etc. try those if clubs/bars are too gross for you. Link to comment
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