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Think about it....he can go on youtube and learn anything. His story is a lie.

You need life experience and confidence. Girls don't like guys who are too afraid to talk to them. They like smooth talkers. So you need to get practicing by chatting up girls, to get over your fears.

Investigate more.

Either he's thinking of having it another go with you OR he's trying to siphon you back for sex, or he's just bored/lonely trying to get the chat/memories going again. 

The best thing for you to do is ask him. If it's a stupid excuse, block/delete him.

Contact her parents and let them know she is being suicidal and needs help asap. It's up to her family to take care of the situation.

If you dare to make that step, you need to get more in his space like finding moments to get close/ lean in, wear feminine/softly sexy outfits, be a little coy, posturing/body language like tilting your head, looking up at him, smile, pull hair behind the ear, light touching, etc.

So you go from having an emotional hole in your chest two days ago to, let's move on, you found supportive guys, you feel sooooooo much better. What changed?

Punishment for infidelity is guilt and the possibility of ending the marriage, not getting your brains beat out. When a man uses violence like that, he will most likely fulfill his promise to kill you. Dropping the charges is not going to smooth things over, it's a death sentence.

Give her space but don't let that stop you from picking up the peaces and enjoying life.

Do lets get down to it.....you really don't see a point of staying married because there is no longer any fulfillment with each other. That being excited about someone new who enjoys everything you like to do, would be the icing on the cake because life is getting short.

The next step would be to talk to your wife about your desire to move on with your life because you are bored and feel life has so much to offer being single again.

Hey people do it all the time, the marriage runs it's course, and they amicably separate.

So what were the issues that led to these relationships ending? Is there a pattern there that you see? Like date people who are more like your father? Aloof, emotionally distant?

IMO he's not going to notice it at all. He will look at it when the next alerts come in and think nothing of it.

Maybe he was nervous. Some people come off as confident over text, then when in person they shut it down.

So now you found out the only reason he sees you is to have sex...and he is predatory because he didn't take no for an answer...he was feeling entitled. He's disgusting because he made you feel bad with his passive/aggressive "joking" manner. He's no dummy he knew it was wrong, he played stupid...what a jerk. Now he his way of dealing with it is to punish you by giving you the silent treatment, making you feel more guilt. Kick him to the curb.

Time to dump and go.

I'm looking at it in the friend's point of view too....For me I could care less whom any my friends date, they are  adults they can sleep with whomever. If I was in the friend's shoes I would just say "I don't want to know about it." I'm the type of person that minds my own business. And I think this friend should too.

Ya you have a good life to share with someone. You just need to find a woman that has her act together.

No you are mistaken just like last time...Not "we" but YOU feel something amazing. She's just in it for the attention. She will get her fill, and toss you aside again. Don't be a shlep again. If she was that into you she wouldn't have walked away.

This guy can't be that bad if he's still part of the social group, and the friend is still civil to him. Why isn't she hurt because the social group is letting him be a apart of it? Why doesn't she kick up a fuss about that? or keep her distance from him? or ditch the group? OP questioning this is quite valid.

6 minutes ago, Jibralta said:

I think that's been the default position; everyone seems to think that the friend is lying. I can't wrap my head around that because I trust my friends and waste zero time on people that I don't trust. I would believe my friend. And I'd especially believe my friend over some random old creeper that's been sniffing around a bunch of 20-somethings. 

Another thing: RoadtoHeal is an admitted liar that lies to get what he/she wants. Yet the friend's trustworthiness is in question. Very interesting!!

No the friend's story doesn't justify a reason why the OP should not date this guy. Why would she be hurt? It doesn't make sense. IMO the OP can date anyone she wants. It's not an ex BF or ex husband or a rapist. I think the friend is being ridiculous.

I agree with what has been posted here. There are times you just need to bite your tongue instead of fight to be right. And to know that even tho you feel you are doing the right thing, you are enabling. Have to learn to draw the line and say no. You were taken for granted.

IMO you were more than generous to offer the ones you had. They are so ungrateful, and ungrateful people deserve nothing.

Have you ever stop to think that your friend might be lying? That maybe he rejected her instead, or the possibility she was seeing him and he dumped her or she is trying to keep seeing him? She's mifted at him for something, but I don't think it was what she had told you.

Any updates?