RobertW

Someone sent this to me.... Thought it might be of help to some people. ----------------------- SURVIVE A BREAKUP Did she say "Let's just be friends", "I am not in love with you", "I still care about you" etc.? Then: 1. It's over - as in FINAL. She's gone. She's NOT coming back. 2. Her FOCUS in life is someone else already. You're nobody. 3. You're no longer welcome. DO NOT MAKE CONTACT. Do not call, do not write - EVER. You're annoying her. Dumpees, Wake Up: SHE'S ALREADY MOVED ON. SHE'S HAPPY. LEAVE HER ALONE. DON'T BOTHER HER. 4. You MUST break the attachment by focusing on YOURSELF. 5. Don't even THINK about being "friends" with her. Don't torture yourself. 6. Get her OUT of your life. Get her pictures, letters, and other reminders OUT OF SIGHT. Pack them away or trash them. 7. Acknowledge your grief - wail out loud, punch your pillow, let your heart mourn. Let the pain out. 8. Express your anger. Write a farewell letter to her, but DO NOT SEND. Write out why you were or are angry at her. Get them all down. And why you are angry at yourself for what you did not do 9. Exercise A LOT. 10. GET OUT of the house. Go do things YOU like to do. 11. Stay away from alcohol. 12. Determine the qualities she had that you want in future partners, and the qualities she had that you don't want. 13. List the lessons learned - What you should have done differently. 14. It is tempting to hold on and scary to LET GO. Say to yourself that you're letting go of her. LET THE PAST GO. 15. Structure your time and stay BUSY. 16. INTERRUPT yourself whenever you get stuck thinking about her and REDIRECT your focus onto something productive. 17. Take it ONE day at a time. 18. It's better it happened NOW rather than later down the road. 19. It's GOOD that it happened, because you're now FREE to find someone BETTER. 20. A NEW and BETTER life is waiting for you. You WILL find someone BETTER. So MOVE ON!!! - BECAUSE SHE ALREADY HAS.

Thanks for your feedback... I think I know how to get it under control now. As for the gf, she sent me an email saying "Althought we're not a couple anymore, I'd like to think we'll always be good friends, so... keep in touch BLAH BLAH".... GEEEEZ. Friends don't do friends like that. By the way, what's up with women pulling that crap all the time? Selfish witch. I am gonna get me another woman as soon as I get me a new job.

I got laid off the week before Christmas from a very good job that I thought would be safe. Got some severance pay, but it's all gone. Part of it was spent on helping my long-time girlfriend pay for her car repairs. Well... a couple of weeks ago, she dumped me - saying she needed to have her "self-esteem" back. It was a total surprise. I suspect she is dating another guy - she works at a store where she meets lots of guys. It hurts like heck, but I have no desire to find out. No desire to cling and beg either. I am too tired to deal with that crap, I have so much trouble focusing on finding another job. And then, with her gone, the house will soon be gone because I have no income. Unemployment is a joke and will run out very soon. As far as the job search, the competition is intense. I've been invited to only one interview so far, and it was a dud. I just want to lie down and go to sleep for good. Life sucks.