skheehee
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Yup. You're right. A few friends of mine made similar comments about not only my break up, but other people's break ups too. They wanna push all the blame onto you, and make you seem like you're the one TOTALLY at fault. This is where we usually start grovelling at their feet, crying and begging them to give us a 2nd chance. When you look at it this way, we don't deserve to be treated like this. We've got dignity and self-respect. Our exes don't respect who we are anymore, and thus, resort to lying and manipulating us. I say, TO HELL WITH THIS. It's my life now!
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Day 13 Realized just how selfish my ex IS by trying to make me just a "friend" right after she got together with her new boyfriend... Putting me on the string all this time, toying with my heart and emotions while I was having some VERY, VERY important examination papers. PLUS, blaming me for not FIGHTING FOR HER during my revision/examination period??? Gosh... Sometimes you wonder why you want them back so bad in the first place. All the mind games and manipulation...
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Day 12 I'm still feeling the same. Angry, mad, confused. I want answers, but I probably won't know. Maybe never. I hope all of this goes away. It'll be later rather than sooner. I don't want to hurt anymore.
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Day 11 Today has been a really bad day for me. My fractured knuckle that I got from punching my bedroom wall after finding out about my ex and her new guy just got worse after football practice. Urgh. And the downcast weather didn't help to lighten the mood either. I love her, and I hate her. Will she ever learn her lesson, or will she keep digging a deeper hole? I won't know. Time will tell, but I'm not gonna waste my time waiting on her.
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Wow! Really nice song! And I can totally identify with the lyrics too! It's Day 10 for me, and I'm going strong. There is this conviction in me that says that there's no other way but forward, and the only person who will be in EVERY part of your future, is ME. So to hell with the moping around, and put your foot down on the accelerator people! Hope lies ahead, for all of us. Take it this way. Just keep a teeny-weeny part of your heart for you ex, for possibilities are aplenty in the future. The rest of YOU should strive to be the person you've always wanted to be. Be the best you can be!
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Speaking of the ex, today is Day 9 of NC, and her mum just texted me. "Hi, hope this MSG finds you well. Pl take gd care n God bless u! Im tempted to reply, but I know this will only delay the process of healing. Should I, or should I not?
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Amen to that, my friend. The only way now is YOUR way. Your future has YOU in it, and what you do now determines YOUR FUTURE.
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What do I do if I were to bump into her and her new beau? I know it's gonna hurt like hell.
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Day 8 I feel a little better compared to yesterday, but everytime I take the tunnel heading towards the train station, the hairs on the back of my neck stand, as I might just bump into her. Her workplace is just accross mine. I don't know what course of action to take if I do. Should I be "friendly" but not act like I'm her "friend"? Or should I just acknowledge her presence with a simple nod? Or worse still, should I just be cold and give her the cold stare, or ignore her, since she shattered my heart into pieces...
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Hey man. We're all in this together, alright? If you need a shoulder to 'lean on', we're here for you buddy. I feel exactly the same way that you do right now. Used, betrayed, humiliated, unloved, unappreciated. Well buddy. This might be exactly what she wants. She wants you to feel the pain of not having her around. She might be doing this out of spite, or she might not. My ex is doing just the same. She dropped breadcrumbs like "I miss you"s and crap like "you can hug me tonight but you can't hug me forever" and still had the cheek to tell me that she got together with someone else who, according to her, is a total doormat and, I quote, "followed me in the nightclub like a dog". Wow. Brings a whole new perspective eh. She said I didn't fight for her when the fact is, I was just another option. How humiliating is that! To be treated like a grocery item that she could just discard if she didn't like me! I'm saying to hell with this "game" that they're playing. By making you feel like crap, it shows that our ex's still have some form of control over our lives. Don't give that to them man. We are better than this. There's a Phoenix in all of us, and it's up to us whether we want to remain in the dust, or rise above the ashes and shine even brighter than before.
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Thank you, friend. By the way, she went on an island getaway with the new guy last week. Wow. After a month together. It feels like she totally forgot the 3 years I spent with her. Seriously, why am I so sad and hurting over someone who is having the "time of her life" with someone she barely knows? It hurts even more when I know that I was just an "option" when she put me on a string for those few weeks.
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Yes, you can. It hurts to know that in a way, we're just being used by our exes when they say, "Let's just be friends" or give you all these mixed signals. Its just selfish of them to not consider how we feel. They want the best of both worlds, and they want to lessen the guilt that they feel from dumping you for another person. Don't further stroke their ego with your lingering presence. Only time will tell if they truly did love you. Time heals, and time brings about change. Remember, even though all of us, in some way or another, want to be back with our exes, the journey is not without pain and suffering. It will be a long, tumultuous marathon, not a sprint. Patience is virtue.
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It feels like day 1 all over again. It hurts so bad.
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End of Day 7 Today was horrible. I have to go to my old workplace (a police station) for 2 weeks to clear some outstanding stuff and the memories came flooding back. The ex's workplace is just accross the street(hospital). I remember that she used to wait at the entrance of my workplace everytime I was about to knock off from work. Oh god... She was so sweet.. so loving... so caring.. I broke down in silence. Things have changed too much, too fast, for my fragile heart to bear. I was so tempted to run over to her workplace and hug her... But I can't. She's gone. Probably for good.
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Day 6 The funniest thing happened last night. A friend of mine posted a picture from 9gag onto my Facebook wall a few days ago. I don't know if any of you have seen this but it went along the lines of a girl who "cheated" on a guy during towards the end of her relationship, and gives all kinds of reasons to her ex boyfriend for the whole fiasco. The scorned ex simply says, "you're a f***ing ****". True 9gag style. My friend posted this on my wall because he and I are going through the same phase in life, his side a little worse in the sense that his ex got engaged to another guy just weeks after breaking up with him. So he posted on my wall to cheer me up. My ex, whom i suspect, has been checking up on my profile every now and then, happened to see this post, I think... Because last night, she posted on her wall, "If I am such a ****, why are you still chasing me? Well done with the story telling." Haha... This just made my day yesterday, because 1) I know that she still "cares" and "loves" me because she keeps checking in on my profile, and 2) it's like indirectly slapping some sense into her. Some of our ex's really need to wake up and see things as they really are. P.S. I was really tempted to reply with a comment but I took a step back and thought that I should just leave her be. Nothing can go wrong if you do nothing.
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Sometimes, these "rebounds" work out. That is our biggest fear. Of losing our ex's forever. Let's be real. How can we be friends with someone who is that special? I can't be friends with my ex as what we had was special. Too special to just be her "friend". I wish I could turn back time and fix things. I wish I could talk her out of being with someone else, just so that I can hold her in my arms again and call her mine. But the reality of it all hurts. You can't compete with the new "kid on the block". It's a waiting game that we shouldn't even be playing. NC for me to "move on with my life", cause I can't be stuck in limbo just because of this setback. However, never lose hope. Never lose hope that one day, things will eventually work out.
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I know how you feel. Sometimes,you think to yourself, "How can someone so close and dear to us be so cold and heartless after everything we've gone through with them and done for them?" It just doesn't make sense. It feels like dagger through the heart. Everyday.
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Day 5 The pain from the heartbreak, which was so immense for the past few months, has surprisingly dwindled to little more than a slight cringe everytime I think about her. I still love her. I'm just looking at the bigger picture now, and realise that we need this space from each other, even if it means jumping into new relationships. Though, I'm not the one who's doing the "jumping".
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Day 4 Woke up thinking about her, but the feelings aren't so intense anymore. Maybe a part of me has accepted that she's gone forever? And that maybe she was right... That I deserve better. Wow. It rhymes.
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Keep counting girl! The day that you stop counting is the day that you've finally moved on! Yes, even if you don't want to, drag yourself outside and see the world in a whole different perspective. There are so many things that you can do now, without having to worry about another person's opinion. I know it's gonna be hard to have fun, but slowly, you'll get there. Keep thinking of all his negative traits that probably had a part to play in the break up. It would make your decision in the future much more calculated and reasonable. If not, there are other more deserving people who are better than him/her. Keep up with the NC. You're not alone. We are all in this together.
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I miss her too. I suggest that you think of all the bad things he did to you to soften this feeling
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Day 3, and not feeling much better. In fact, I'm feeling almost as bad as the first time I found out she's with the other guy.
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Yup. Hope for the best, but always expect the worst. I was basically clutching at thin air when I kept trying after I failed the first time.
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It's really sad, isn't it. Now they're just somebody we used to know.
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Gosh, I know exactly how you feel. The anger prevents me from calling her and venting, because I know it will only make things worse. Maybe you'll feel better if you were to listen to Avril Lavigne's "My Happy Ending" or Maroon5's "Payphone". It sums up how we feel right now. Oh, and listen to the explicit versions yeah.
