skheehee
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End of Day 35 Another day goes by. Not a day passes where I do not think of her. It ends there though. Just a vague image of who she was. It doesn't matter anymore. The kind of person she is right now is not the kind I want to waste another 3 years on. I'll stay strong, as with all of you.
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End of Day 34 Just another day. She's slowly fading away. The memories, they're becoming less clear now. It's like my mind is making a conscious effort to purge her out of my life, like a detox. Haha! So this is what it feels like to move on. All the best to you people!
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Hey, it's good to know that you'll stand your ground and take on this mission, soldier! When the going gets tough, the tough get going. And that's what we're doing. We're all in this together, mate. Heads up, for there are brighter days ahead!
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End of Day 33 Just another day. I spent it lazing at home, and doing chores. Oh, and an intense home workout in the evening. I'm lookin' fine.
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He's right, Micky. You may think that you know her, and that what your heart thinks is true. The thing is, you don't. If you really did, and her love was true, you would STILL be together. Don't let your feelings cloud your judgement. Njoy is right. We have been down that path before, so we're speaking from experience. You've tried your best, and nothing good came out of it. There is this saying, "You cant do anything to make her wanna come back, but you can do things to make her NOT wanna come back". This is why NC is crucial. I'm not saying its the best "strategy" to get your ex back, but the main focus here is not on her, but on YOU. Do not throw away a brighter future for someone who might not love you, anymore. Trust me. You will regret any rash decisions you make now based on your feelings/emotions. Us, your family, here on ENA, don't want to see you get hurt all over again. Stay strong with us. You'll pull through and come out a stronger, better person than you were before. We all do.
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You've got a point here, Njoy. Life can come up with the most pleasant of surprises at times like this. A great opportunity to turn your life around falls in your lap, OUT OF NOWHERE, and what do you do? You have to take it! You have tried to work things out with your ex, and she's not budging. Well, maybe not anytime soon. MAYBE. Are you really going to risk a whole new, and quite possibly, better life ahead with this new job offer? When I first found out that my ex got together with another guy while leading me on for slightly more than a month, I was devastated. I called, begged, pleaded, cried, even threatened to commit suicide. But she didn't budge. I told her I'd wait for her. And you know what I learnt from all this? It made me look like a total loser. It made me look like someone who had no self respect, no dignity, no self worth. It made me look like a WUSS, period. I told myself that this is not how I want to be seen anymore. I don't want to waste my life waiting around for someone who clearly has me just as AN OPTION. Someone to fall back on? Possibly. Just a friend? Why would I want that. It's all or nothing for me. Sorry for digressing a little, but what I'm trying to put forth is that you should not put your life on hold for someone who CLEARLY does not want you at the moment, or possibly, anymore. Life is full of endless possibilities and opportunities. Take them. Don't let her get to you.
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End of Day 32 I'm still going strong. I've had my off days, but I'm not letting her bring me down to my knees. When we were together, she played mind games with me. Now, I'm playing those games with myself. I will fight my way through this, and be a better person. SO SHALL YOU. We are better than what our exes perceive us to be. Prove not to them, but to OURSELVES, that we can rise above such adversities and be the best we can be.
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Amen to that, Njoy. Love exists in all forms, from so many sources.
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End of Day 31 Sometimes I wonder why this thread is in the "Get back together" section of this forum. I mean, yeah, sometimes NC does make your ex come back, but the success stories are few and far between. I have all but given up hope on her, as she's in bed with her new guy right now as I'm typing this out. 3 years together, up in smoke and ashes just like that. As though I never existed. Its ok. All will be well. I'll be alright. ALL OF YOU will be alright. We will come out of this together, stronger people than we were.
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End of Day 30 A month has passed. I know that she's having a blast with the new guy, but I know myself even better. I don't need someone else to be happy. I can be happy by MYSELF. Here's to brighter days ahead!
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You'll be fine. We'll be fine. Everything will turn out to be alright. It always does.
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Yes! And no matter what, stick to your guns and let that day roll by, just like any other!
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End of Day 29 Today, after feeling like crap for the most part, I picked myself up again and started venting my anger and frustrations on my abs and the weights. Boy, do I look stunning now! I am, by far, a much better catch than the guy my ex is canoodling up with in bed right now. It's her loss, and another far, more deserving person's gain.
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This is the tricky part. How do we know there is a chance, even the slightest of chances, of reconciliation? When we're talking about reconciliation, I'm assuming getting back together officially as a couple, and not "just friends". And yeah, NC is for healing. It is by no means a surefire way of getting your ex back, but what would you rather do now is get yourself together first. Contacting them will only push them away, reminding them of why you broke up in the first place, pressuring them, letting them know that you'll always be on the sidelines, waiting for them no matter what etc. Its even worse when theyre dating or already in a "serious relationship" with someone new. Your self-worth is most important now. Don't let them take that away from you. Come to think of it, a birthday is just another day. No biggie.
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I'd say when in doubt, do nothing. My ex was already 2 weeks into a new relationship (rebound or not, who cares?) and she didn't even bother to wish me on my birthday. Personally, I would just ignore and carry on with your daily duties. Oh, and don't be too sure about her not accepting any dates. My ex told me should would never love anyone, never have sex with anyone else, would always love me etc. all the BS she could conjure. And what happened in the end? I'll let you fill in the blanks buddy.