dmoorman

When I married I thought it'd be for life. I could not have been any happier. Before marriage my husband went with me places all the time. We really had a wonderful life. And I waited to get married until I was older because I wanted to be sure that I had found someone to spend the rest of my life with. However, I kid you not, the day after we were married he decided to have his teenage son come down and spend three months with us. This is a kid that does nothing but disrepects me and will break whatever he thinks I love. I have no china or crystal left becuase at the age of 15 he decided to play baseball in the house. Suddenly he sprung it on me that his son was coming to live with us and I've been living a nightmare ever since. The boy's now 18, acts two, whines, has no friends becuase he says every one is stupid and he's the only intelligent one in this town. My husband acts like he's right about everything. I am a maid, laundry person, cook, and yard girl. That's what I do all day long. I clean up after them. We went from having such a great relationship to having no relationship. His ex has sued us 17 times since the boy's been here and yes, it was my savings that I had before marriage and my 401K that I had before marriage that ended up paying legal fees. I'm broke but yet we bought his son a new truck. No, I never dreamed in my wildest dreams that I'd ever have an affair. I didn't want it happening to me so I certainly didn't want to do that to someone else. And yes, I've ended the affair but that's becuase I was feeling guilty and figued I don't want to live a lie. I love my husband dearly but how much can a person take? After purchasing the kid a new truck my husband turned my car back in so that we'd not have that car payment. I had the car before we married also. I've lost everything. My furniture is torn to crap, nothing is taken care of. If something needs to be fixed I'm the one fixing it. I've learned to do jobs that I never thought I could. I'm bitter as all get out and I'm mad. School will be out in June and I've said that if his sons not gone within 30 days, I am. I know he'll take his sons side. Always does whether he's right or not but at the age of 18 he should be able to make it. He won't be able to without daddy holding his hand. I could go on and on but I think you get the picture. There are ups and downs in marriages and the normal ones I could handle but this is a nightmare.

Frustratedwife, I thought i had it bad but you really do. Have you been married very long? I finally told my husband that either his kid goes or I do. As soon as school is out he's got 30 days to make up his mind. If he chooses his son I hope the two live happily ever after. I grew up with a stepdad and my mother told us from day one that we were to respect this man because he didn't have to marry her since he knew she had four kids and she explained that it takes one heck of a person to put up with other kids. We walked a thin line and we did respect this man. He was our dad in every aspect. But it seems when it comes to men they have a different outlook on things. They think their kids are perfect and we're just idiots for complaining. I'm at the point to where I'm looking for work so that I can move out. I'd rather be without my husband than be this miserable. Sex? What's that? I can't tell you the last time we've had sex. I have no desire for this man becuase I have no respect for him after the way he's let his 18 year old treat me. I know people want to make their marriage work but there just comes a time when we have to face facts. First off, I'd never let the pregnant daughter talk to me the way your step daughter does. I'd show her the road and ask if she wants to walk or I'd offer to slap her so hard she'd be in the next state within minutes. LOL. I am also being treated for depression and when someone causes this upon another person then there is a big problem.

I don't know what it is about men and their sons but they do seem to think they're perfect and step parents are just "picking" on them. My step son came to live with us and that's when my depression started. I've not been happy since he's been here. He's a liar, he steals from us, etc. Yet if I say anything about it my husband complains that all I do is gripe about this kid. This kid is now 18 and acts like he's two. Until the age of 15 he was still asking his dad to tuck him into bed. He knew how to play him like a fiddle. I finally had to put my foot down about that and it did stop. I just finished cleaning the kitchen, he came in and when he leaves for work I can go in a clean up the mess tha the leaves for me. This is neverending. I know what you're going through and I wish I could say that it'll get better. My only option is divorce and hopefuly that will happen soon.

Approximately 20 years ago I dated a man that was in college at the time. I knew he'd become very suscessful and he has. We lost touch over the years, he married, divorced, etc. and I waited to get married until two years ago. I'm 44 and he's 46 (the other guy). My marriage is nothing short of boring. Husband is a workaholic, we live out in the middle of nowhere and friends have stopped coming out to see me since it's so far to drive. I ran into this guy, a couple of people have always said there's a major sexual tension between us so I acted on it. I'm not happy yet I do love my husband. However, is it possible to love two men at the same time? This guy will never want anything more than just a fling so I know this isn't something that would make me leave my husband even though I want to. I've done the one thing in my life that I said I'd never do and yet I feel no remorse for it. How do I handle this? I'm not a good liar at all so getting out of the house is really hard.