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If the guy is like me, then the only way to get to know him is going to be to be the first one to do the talking. There are basically 2 kinds of people, bold and shy. Whether its a guy or a girl. "old fashioned" women are just to imbarised to make the first move.

To get back to the question... be brave and talk to the guy. Whats it going to hurt.

I haven't been here in quite a while, but I'm having a bit of a problem. My wife has a tendency to drink to much on occasion, and becomes rather annoying. If I say anything about it I become the evil bad guy, if I try and cut her off I am the bad guy, and if I say nothing I just become Fed up and angry. Any advice anyone?

sounds like the guy likes you to me. I (being a shy guy myself) use to do quite the same thing. You don't want the other person to think you are staring at them so you avoid eye contact all together. If he thought you were watching him, he most likely is entertaining thoughts of you having an interest in him hence the grin.

you just have to remember that no one can make him get better. He has to chose to do it himself.

having gone to school in a rule area I would say that if you aren't making friends because you are just going to move in a little bit then how is that going to change when you go somewhere else? The financial part is also huge. I didn't think it was that big of a deal when I was going to school, and now the loan payments are seriously impacting my standard of living. I wish I would have made smarter financial decisions when I was in school. Wanting to be social will make it easier to over look the financial part, but remember that you aren't going to school for the life you live now. You are going to school so you can live the life you want once you are out of school.

having worked with people like your ex, only a little younger, has me a little worried. If he isn't going to go to a therapist I can say I see him getting any better. Him thinking that the only thing they are going to do is to drug him up isn't exactly right. They probably will medicate him because he can't control himself by himself at this point. Him being in a voluntary group probably isn't going to do him much good. He's probably going to reject the help. Even if he gets professional psychiatric help it will take a lot of time for him to become invested enough to become better at all. My suggestion would be to fine a way to get him to go to some kind of therapy and then convenes him that they really can help. The hard part is that he doesnt believe that a therapist will help him and until he believes that no one can help him.

You said that your heart is still with you ex... between that and the kid as long as you are willing to comit to the girl and not stray then I say go back to her... on the other hand if you think that you may "stray" again then keep with this new girl. You've allready put your ex through enough.

The guy has his family and his mistress… you aren't going to be able to get him to walk away from that. He has everything he wants right now. I just can't see how anyone could see themselves with someone who has proven to be unfaithful and untrustworthy. It's just baffling to me.

If she's married stay the hell away!!! Be friends all you like, but if you let you mind take you anywhere other than friendship you will do something you will regreat.

Well here's the deal. Me and my g/f were fooling around a bit the other day when her fingers were getting a little close to the exit only area if you know what I mean… Well ok… she was all the way to the back door…

Now it's not that I mind her exploring all she wants. I'm completely comfortable with whatever she would choose to do, but what would make a woman want go back there. The girl is obsessed with keeping her hands clean, so I was just figuring that would be the last place she would ever think of putting her hands. It's something that I wouldn't do so I really don't understand the motivation… I guess in the end all I'm looking for is a lady that could tell me why they would do the same thing of there own accord.

ASK HER OUT MAN!!!!!

You won't know any other way. suck it up and do it!

Not likeley. If it's only 3 days, then you should just chill for now.

Thats a big 10-4 good buddy. Big flashing neon signs say ask me out... I can see them from here.

one month is kind of soon to make a future decishion on, so I say you make your decishion without considering her for now. If it really is your dream to live there, then you should by all means go. If on the other hand your dream is to have a stedy well paying job, then stay. You should always go with what your true dream is becouse that will make you happy reguardless of what you make.

I would feel a little down about those kinds of comments too. I would say something about it. It's not exactly mature behavior… I guess I don't know her age, but at 16 or something I can see it being a bit more common.

I think it just means that your horney. Canceling plans is a little extreme though.

You kind of shot yourself in the foot with the whole imaginary girlfriend thing. You have two choices about that. Either come clean right now, or make up a little life for this new girl because if you do get back together she'll probably ask a couple questions about the girl. As far as if she wants you back. I would have to say she probably does especially if she offered info saying that she hadn't been dating anyone. How you kill off your "new" girl is up to you, but just make sure it doesn't come back to haunt you.

It's just a play by feel kind of thing. For example. My last girlfriend and I had been dateing 3 weeks before our first kiss, and my curent girlfriend and I kissed on the first date. It's just kind of how things go.

If you lost 24 lbs in 4 weeks, then A lot of that was probably water wait. The quick weight gain was probably from getting back to drinking enough fluids while your eating. You may gain a bit more in the next week, but if you eat responsibility you should be able to stay where you are after that.

I don't think a month is that big any ether. The only reasion I'm really wanting to do anything is that I'm going to be gone for a week starting the day after.

I don't think the girl is doing anything but messing with you. If she's not going to go all out for you, then I don't think she's worth the torment.

how bout you talk to her bro and have him hook you two up?

You're the one that wanted space. I have a fealing that she's a bit like me and it's all or nothing. Space and apart are the same thing in a lot of peoples minds. I would say that she's hpoeing that you deside that you don't like the space.

Here's my advice... Don't be a dush next time. You screwed up this time so try being loyal next time

You're right man. In the end she's going to have to choose who to give her all to. I've seen people leave their spouses for their high school sweetheart. You have to decide if you are really willing to go through the pain of seeing this because believe me it's painful. I just found myself there not to long ago. She chose me in the end and lucky for me it didn't last but a couple days. I wouldn't wish that on anyone. I feel for ya bro I really do, but in the end your only choices are to end it now at wait it out.