Ok, hopefully this isnt too long for everyone. I would like feedback on what people think. I met my b/f 2 years ago, we had a wonderfull relationship and were happy. Or so I thought. In Feb he notified me that his uncle had passed and his aunt had asked him to drive her down to Cali for the funeral. I thought it was a great idea as he would get to see family that he hadnt seen for years. So the day came (which so happened to be 02/14 Valentines day) he bought me a boquet of beautifull Roses and off he went to Cali for the funeral. I had no reason to question where he was going. We had always had good communication, so there was no reason to doubt him. He had taken his cell and called me that night on the drive down cause he missed me and hope I slept well. Well the next day I totally lost contact with him, he wouldnt answer his cell phone and sometimes it was turned off. I was scared, didnt know what had happened to him, didnt have a number to call in Cali- nothing... Days went by, he had planned to be there until Sunday or monday... I kept calling and no answer... I had a bad feeling, but couldnt do anything about it. Finally I get a call on monday- he said that his niece ha used his phone and taken off with it and when he finally caught up with her she still had his phone, minus the leather case... said he was so mad that he took it and left early and was half way home. I didnt feel good about the story but had nothing to back it up... A couple weeks pass and it is my birthday, we went out and had a great time, all was well until the next day he never came home... I called him phone repeatedly and No answer again, so as sneaky as it is... I figured out the code to him cell phone voicemail. When I started listening to the messages I found repeated calls from another woman, calling him honey, babe, and letting him know that she was at home now so he could come by... I was devastated, I could not believe my ears. I was in shock... How could he do this to ME?!?! I decided to start digging a little deeper at that point had called a few of my friends for advice. They were amazed that he could do that to me... just the other night we were all out and he was so loving towards me, they thought i was joking at first... But it was no joke. My girlfriend suggested I look @ his check statement which would show debits, Etc. So I did. What I found sickened me. On 02/15 there was a charge to a hotel at the beach.. he had taken another woman to the beach for Valentines. Then there were charges from out of town, another city about 45 minutes away. She told me to get his cell phone bill... there were call, after call, after call to that town and tons made from his phone to that town when they were at the Beach. So I called the number, asked if he was there... And he was.. the whold thing escalated after that and I kicked him out. I moved 3 weeks after as well. He has since ended that relationship and is asking me to be back with him, he explained that he had known her for years (which was actually true) and that he made a mistake, we have been talking but things are strained. I have days where I'm so depressed over the whole ordeal that I can barely stand to talk to anyone... What should I do? We live in our own places now. There are times when he still acts shady and I get that bad feeling again, I do not trust him... All I ask of him right now is that he be open with me 100%. If I ask something of him, even though he may find it trivial and irrelevant he should be honest with me... And there are things that he says he doesnt know, or wont tell me at all. Especially when it comes to the other woman... But me, I find them out on my own... I just hope he is telling the truth. Should I bother with him? Help.....
