Ccian

I was reading this book and it says no matter what just act like nothing is wrong, like it does not bother you. Just say hi to her and pay her no attention the rest of the night. Easier said then done, i know but you have to play the game and check your feelings at the door. This will actually make her wonder what is up with you. If she tries to talk to you more, just be like hey i got to go, dont give her more then 10 mins at a given time. Because if you do you look conqured. If she wants to talk about the break up, just say " your right it is the best thing for both of us" By agreeing with her she wont fight with you and your not trying to change her mind. If you dont chase, you dont look conqured, no matter how u may be feeling. Just have fun and look happy,, dont mope around. Look your best and smell good. Talk to some other women too. Dont let her affect you. When you go home u can deal with your feelings. This book says that the same way to get over your ex is the same way to get them back. So have fun, remember there was life before your ex

I am going through the same thing and lets just say its been 35 days since i called her and its been a month today since we have spoke. But I will say over the last two weeks she has been on line ALOT. I never seen her on since we broke up and she moved on to another, had the other before she ended our 6year relationship. I been reading a lot of these post and It seems like it takes a few months for them to actually call. Just keep busy, work out, take care of your self and dont sit by the phone and what ever you do, do not call her, email her, nothing. I know my ex is stuborn and the last time we broke up she told me that if i did not call her she would of never called me. But I realized that this will continue to happen if i keep allowing it to happen. Seems to be her summer routine. so what i have been doing after reading the art of war is to make it less intimidating for her to contact me. I been going on line various times and for a short period of time so she sees me and i am hoping she will eventually instant message me. I cant instant message her because, then she will be in the driver seat. The dumper has to be the one to come to the dumped if not then u look like you are chasing. So now i am being a bullboard, i have been doing this since monday. Before this i was a ghost and just watched her under a different name to determine a pattern of when she was on. I also in the last few weeks have been getting a lot of out of area calls and when i pick up they hang up. I often get then about one minute after she signs off line. Sometimes you just have to bait the hook. There is an e-book called to save a relationship when your the only one who wants too. It has helped me alot through this three month period.