confusia

My ex boyfriend and i had just broke up 2 months ago. we were dating for 10 years and out of no where he said that he was not sure if he was ready for a realtionship. to make a long story short, we continued to talk and commenets that were made from his end all the time were that he was not ready for a committment, but he cannot fathum another guy touching me. he told me yesterday that he is interessted in another girl after i said something that he didn't like(it was a comment stating that i am realizing that there are people out there that could actually treat me right). he made it a point though to make it clear that he does not want a relationship with her and that they are just friends He says he wants to start working things out slowly with us but this is the second time he has told me this in two weeks bit has made no effort yet. i have no idea what to do please help me!!!!

at this very moment i am dealing with the same problem. should i play it cool, or am i suppose to make myself totally unavailable. i find that you should always do what you feel is the best thing. if you feel that you are strong enough to remain friends with the other person, then by all means go for it. my situation is a little diff. though. but like i said before, you do what you think is best for you. oh and by the way, do not let anyone ever tell you that you are giving in. i give you much praise if you have the will power to remain friends. good luck!!! confusia

my boyfriend and i of 10 years had just broken up. he had gone to the marine corps for 4 years and i waited patientlly at home for him. when he had gotten out i already picked out an apartment for us that we had previously decided we were going to get. we lived together for a year and decided that we were gonna move back home to save some money. after moving out i found a pattern developing. he said he would come over and then he would say that he wanted to hang out with his friend that he has not seen in a while(on 1 occasion) and on another he had said he was going to come over and kept prolonging it by calling me throughout the night saying in an hour, then in another hour and so on. we have now been broken up for two weeks and he calls me constantly. he tells me that he loves me and he wants to be with me, and also that no one will ever compare to me but he needs some time to grow up. i don't understand if he is messing around with me, or if he does in fact want me back. also if he needs this time to grow up why does he call me constantly telling me he misses me and that he wants to see me? please help me!! what should i do? thanks, confusia