itsme_thebrat

I have this friend that needs help and I dont know how to give it to him.. Let me tell you a little about his problem. He is 23 years old and he was dating a young lady from the time they were in grade school together and they were in Love. They bought a home together in 99 and she was to graduate college this year and they were gonna get married and be together always. Well on March 5,2003 she was in a car wreck and was killed on impact and he was lost and since then he and I have became very close friends and we talk alot and here lately he has been talking about killing his self because he has nothing to live for and he will never find anyone to love him the way she did and he is very cute and well built and there are many women out there that would love to spend time with him including me but he is soo depressed and down on hisself and he just dont wanna live and I dont know what to say or do to help him. The other night he was supposed to work and never showed up well his Mom called me thinking I would know where he was and we coulnt find him well he was at the graveyard laying on her grave with a gun in his mouth and was gonna kill himself and for some reason he couldnt get the gun to fire on the first round so he gave up and I told him maybe she was looking down on him and making sure he didnt hurt hisself and he still thinks he has no reason to live and I am so worried about him cause I cant always be with him to make sure he is ok and I dont know what to do.. Can anyone please help me.. I thought I should tell you the other thing that happened in his life last month my cousin which is his friend stayed at his house all night and he got up and went to work the nect day and when he went home to make sure he has locked up when he left he arrived to find him on the floor dead from an overdose and that really set him back even more. I dont know if it can get any worse for the boy but I wanna try to help him and I just dont know what to do... If you have any advise please feel free to give it to me cause I cant do it alone....

Hello My name is Christy and I need some man advice. I am married and me and my husband dont get along that well and he doesnt pay much attention to me, I met another man and he happens to work with my husband, we are just friends we have never done anything but I want to, I dont know how he feels about me but I would like to take our just being friends to the friends wih benefits. We meet for lunch everyday and we just hang out and chat we are really close and we always hug when we are leaving and I want him so bad but I just dont know how to tell him that without scaring him away or hurting our friendship. Can you please help me? How can I let him know I want more without scaring him away??? Or should I just walk away and cool things off between us? [/b]