90_hour_sleep

i've been wondering about this myself. i've had some contact with her brother in law...mostly because he contacted me...just to see how i was doing. it's hard when the family (especially a large one) feel that they were very connected to you. it makes me more reluctant to move on i think. it's just one more thing that i have going for me in the grand scheme of things. very hard to know how this kind of situation will play out. in my situation...the ex is going to be living with her sister and this brother in law that i've talked to. so i'm i feeling pretty unsure about continuing to talk to him...like somehow i'm hoping that he'll make a comment in passing that he's been talking to me... i think the whole situation might make me a little crazy.

yah brazil...i've been feeling extremely anxious lately. most days i'm alright...but others i feel like this is just an impossible road to go down. i still haven't figured out the best way to deal with that. exercise seems to help...rigorous exercise. other than that...i dunno. i think you just have to figure out how to be alone again. we've all been there...just takes a bit of work to rediscover.

yah...weekends are harsh...i'm having a tough time with saturdays myself. just have to force myself to get out of bed sometimes...do something productive with my day. day 9 or 10 for me...i forget. some very difficult days...and some pretty half assed decent days. no one said it would be easy. i have a few questions...for anyone who'd care to answer: 1. does anyone else find that it helps to write down what you're thinking...how you're feeling? 2. do you suppose that there are people out there...regardless of the circumstances of breakup...that are just immune to this whole NC thing? seems like kind of an obvious question. i've been tossing that one around a bit. 3. does there come a time when it should be okay to break NC? i'm thinking down the road...5,6 months or more. i've just been feeling lately that there are some things that need to be said...regardless of whether or not a reconciliation is in order. maybe that desire will fade with time...as most things do. just some thoughts... ciao

"NC is my best friend. Life must go on." i like that...extreme...but so true

i like the sound of this...good way for people to stick together. my own story... recently split with a 6 year relationship. been coming to grips with my own faults. i've been making a huge effort to allow myself to move on. she says she needs time...and i respect that...and have been trying to embrace it as an opportunity for me to reconnect with myself. she's been gone for 2 weeks. i think we're fortunate in the fact that we were really able to communicate before she left. i think most of the cards were on the table at that point. it seems important. one problem i seem to be having is that her stuff is still here. i've moved most of it into the spare bedroom...removed pictures...sentimental artifacts...basically anything that reminds me of her. i've shed many a tear...something that's never happened for me...and i feel like i'm starting to move towards some sort of healing. unfortunately...i don't think that can REALLY happen until she's moved everything. ran into a bit of a bump in the road yesterday. i got a message...saying that she needed to pick a few things up. so i made a point of being gone...for the entire day. but when i got home...after 11:00...she was here. she said she had nowhere to stay...and it would only be for the night. i gave her the cold shoulder...and i'm wondering why i feel so bad about it. i made a point of telling her that she shouldn't be here...that she should be respecting my space...and her own decision to leave. i guess having her here caused a relapse into my former emotional state. does this seem like a natural reaction? to cap it off...she wanted a hug. it seems simple...but it felt so complicated. i refused...and felt cold afterward. today has been a daze. just so happy it's v-day...bring on the feelings of rejection!! can a hug still feel good...even if you're unsure of the motivations behind it? i'd like to accept the challenge...thanks for the post.