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Thank You for your replys...... I am afraid the strange substance is seimen. He tells me that he loves me and would never do this to me or our children. I am not stupid enough to think that he would admit anything at this point........All I know is that if I were thinking of going outside our marrage I would talk to him about it. When I try to talk to him about my fears he tells me that I am being stupid and worrying for nothing. I want to have faith in him and our relationship but my trust is fading fast. Bubble

I am considered to be fairly young. I was married and had 3 kids by the time I was 21. I can tell you that early in my marrage I was terrified to have sex with my husband. I was afraid that he would compare to his other physical relationships and be disappointed with me. It is so important to talk to your wife about your FEELINGS...NOT what you are THINKING. There is a big difference. Maybe she is feeling stressed at her work or wants more romance like in the beginning of your relationship. The first 4 years of marrage where our hardest. With kindness and understanding on my husbands part it made me feel safe enough to open up to new feelings and experiences with him. Keep a positive attitude and romance her, make her feel like she is the most important thing in the world. Love each other and don't let your pride get in the way of talking about everything. Good Luck, Bubble

My husband has always been very hard working. He got a new position in his company and has put all of his efforts into doing a good job. It has been getting worse over the last 6 months. He stays up late, gets up after I have gone to bed, has been distancing him self from me and our 3 children, and to make things worse he has been less interested in sex. Over the last few months I have found a strange substance in his pants. He says that he has no idea what it is and swears that he would never cheat and hurt me or our kids. What makes me suspicious is that it is only in his work pants.....never in his casual clothes that he wears around the house or on the weekends. Is there any possible chance that it is not what I fear it is. I don't want to think that my husband would throw away 15 years together and risk our children hating him. My father was a cheater and he has seen what his actions have done to our relationship. Can anyone help me? Bubble