Hi. First post... I've been married for a little over a year. I love my wife more than anything, but we haven't had sex in about 2.5-3 months. She says it's because I've gained weight since we married (so has she, but not as much as I have) but I haven't gained any in the past 5 months. Even when we first got married we had sex 2 times a week, tops. Then it went to once a week. Then once a month. She says she still loves me, but I am afraid she is perhaps getting some on the side... I hate to say that, but I just don't know what else to think. I am very loving towards her, I do the majority of cooking and cleaning. She is on her feet all day at work so I give her foot massages almost every night. It makes me feel bad whenever I try to initiate anything, because I know I'm going to get turned down. Sadly, I have had thoughts of waiting until the next time she tries to initiate so I can turn her down so she knows how I feel. I know that sounds petty, and I probably won't do it. But what is sad is the reason I won't do it is NOT because I don't want to do it out of spite (which SHOULD be the reason) but because I don't want to miss an oppurtunity to have sex and have to wait another 3 months. What can I do? Please help!
