YO is there anybody in there? Are you afraid that she'll get everything including the $, kids and more? your right because in this lovely country of ours no matter what State, the first one to make an issue to the courts is going to have good cause. Even if it is all bullshit. Don't let her get away with anything because she does not deserve anything but visitation rights and those should be supervised at first. Don't let yourself become some kind of a wuss and take what is yours cause if she did it once, she'll do it again (cheat that is). Go back into when it all started and log everything you know about her affair or affairs and take charge of this issue. Those children need to be with you so fight for the kids not her. Get rid of the damage damnit. You did nothing you owe her nothing. So for all of the men who get screwed like you may, do it for us.
god bless