Hi there,
My wife and I were separated for 2 months odd now. It was a built-up of frustrations in her about past seem-resolved
issues and the lack of common activities. Also, she shoulders very heavy responsibility at work and she felt I wasn't
supporting her enough. Although I have my explanations but I will drop it here. I just wanna say that I love my wife
and I've always wanted her to be happy. I was surprised by the many frustrations she told me as I can't possibly read
her mind. She's a very intelligent, loving yet stubborn woman. Anyway, I've moved out for 2 months now.
Right now, I am wondering what is happening to our relationship... That's why I am writing here.
When we first separated, she did not want to reply my "hello" email/sms. In fact, she preferred me not to do so as
she did not want to think of me. Gradually, she started to call me and we chat a short while. As weeks past, we also
talked about plans for our house and insurance. After 5 weeks apart, we met for dinner, had some good chat and I kissed
her goodbye on the taxi. I've continued to send her gifts and fix up things at home when I am free. Then 2 weeks ago, I
brought her to a party and we really enjoyed that Friday evening. I send her home and we had a really passionate night.
We hugged and snuggled after the actions but when I told her that I love her she skipped her reply. Instead, she asked me
in what ways did I love her. Then 2 days later, we went swimming, caught a movie and had dinner, holdings hands together.
I felt great that week because things seemed to improve so so much!
Last week, she was very stressed at work and her response to me went downhill again. She sounded bored when I called
her and when I met her at home last Sunday, she just did her own things. She said she's tired and don't feel like talking.
Eventually, I politely left the place and gave her the peace. *I felt like an idiot there, really*
Frankly, I really feel like filing for a divorce now but deep in me, I still believe my wife is still alive in this marriage. I believe
she's just not sure about herself and she's too stressed up at work to think about these things. Being a stubborn girl, she
do not accept failure in her projects. I don't expect her to be as loving as she used to be immediately; I just want her to try
living together again and to let me share her load/stress. But she seemed to be taking her own time and left me hanging
outside in a rented place. It's very hurting and difficult for me. Worse, I have to appear positive or this marriage may go burst.
Well, that's my story... Ladies esp, should I call it quit? Is my wife still alive and able to love again? How can I make her
feel secure to come back to me? I'm celebrating her birthday dinner on Aug 16. Any tips beside flowers and cards?
Thank you all so much...
From an imperfect loving husband.