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that's totally true, we do teach other people how to treat us...i'm just starting to realize that. i've had two very long term relationships and it seems that both have ended almost the exact same way. it's time for me to start standing my ground and letting people know that i won't always forgive them. it's hard for me to do, but i guess you have to start somewhere. that's why i would say you should do, tell her how you feel, stand your ground. if she doesn't care enough to listen to you, then maybe she's not right for you.

thanks for the reply, you're probably right. he says there is no one else, that he wouldn't have time or the energy to start something new even if there were...but i'm sure you're probably right. i guess i just wish he'd be more honest about it and about the situation with his student. he assumed that i had heard about that situation from friends (i have two that teach at the same school he does), i never told him i saw his email. the reason he claims to be so mad about me bringing up his relationship with that student is that i am "listening to gossip and sources that are not credible." what he doesn't know, is that he's the source. so, he's lying and getting very defensive about it. i guess that's a sign right there...and i've just had a feeling for a while that something isn't right. why do guys go that? why do they get all defensive when you've caught them...can't they just admit it and apologize?

Ok, here's the jist. I started dating this guy a year ago. I'm from IL he's from AZ. I moved to AZ after finishing college last may, primarily for him. I have a few friends here, but I don't know too many people. Anyway, about 5 months ago he started getting really irritable and distant. He said it was because he felt I was too dependent on him and relied too much on him to be happy. I admit I have been sad and often miss home, so I'm not always a ton of fun to be around. He has just started a job as teacher, and works very hard. He teaches 6 classes of high school english and coaches their speech team as well. So, needless to say he's stressed and busy almost all the time. I try to do nice things and keep him happy, but he said he needed more space, because we were fighting all the time. So, I would try to give it to him, but he would always end up calling and stuff, so the space never really happened. I guess that was both our faults. So, the fighting kept happening and I discovered that he has a "special relationship" with one of his students. That is, they call each other babe or baby and talk on the phone/email almost everyday. I am certain he would never do anything physical with her, but he obviously has an emotional connection with her that we are losing. And it's inappropriate. He won't admit to the situation, I only know because he left his email up one day accidently and I saw. So, the fights have been bad, we've talked about taking a break, but had decided to work through it. Anyway, he had to go out of town this past week and we didn't talk, we were both very angry about an argument we'd had the night before he left. So, finally I called him last night to see if we were ever going to talk. He didn't answer but sent me an email later that said he couldn't do this anymore and that he was too angry and annoyed with me to talk to me. He said he didn't miss me when he was gone and that he was still in love with me deep down, but that all the bad feeling are overshadowing it. He wouldn't call or talk to me in person or over the phone. I just don't understand. He's got a bad temper and hates to have "those" kinds of talks, he blows up, screams, hits things. But I haven't even talked to him in a week, how can he be so angry? He says he can't be with me right now, maybe in the future, but he can't handle it right now. But he wants to be friends and eventually see what happens. I'm just confused and upset. Has anything like this ever happened to anyone? I'd appreciate any opinions or anything....should I just say screw him or wait it out or try to be friends?