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I think you really need to dig into your childhood and find out why you are incapable of love. You say you have typically moved from relationship to relationship but never learned why - you just got married and that didnt do it either. There is something wrong with your inner self that wont heal by leaving your husband - or by staying. You need to really take this seriously because it WILL FOLLOW you either way. Please see a therapist and try to go back to your childhood and see why you do the things you do. Love's been pounding on your door and you wont open it...

Unless things improve for you, I dont think its worth waiting. You aren't getting what you want from this relationship - so you are open to other things like infidelity whether you know it or not. End it respectably because its best for both of you. Don't do like many others do and wait, risk finding someone else and hurt her and your family even more. I'd say you need to get out while you are focused and be happy on your own.

Sorry but this thread is a few months old and we havent heard nigh from Lostinpain since last November! I am also going through something like this but have 3 kids in the picture - wife had an emotional affair to kick it off but said she fell out of love for me a few years ago. Funny how we can miss these most important things about our relationship with women!!! Wonder where Lost went to and what happened...