scmr

Ask him why he doesn't want to have sex.

Fair point didutellme, but if you don't ask you don't get. I used to have a telephone sales job, and I hesitate to talk about human beings in the same terms, but the rule was...you make 100 calls, 10 of those people want to talk to you, and one out of those ten actually wants what you have to offer. Yep, this definitely sounds crude, but I hope it answers your 'why bother?' query. Ask this woman what you want to ask her because, and I feel a cliche coming on...as one door closes, another opens.