jessicake

Dear smiles, A relationship takes two and it seemed like she wasnt wanting to make any effort and seems she is trying to get you back for not wanting to be in a one sided relationship by sabotaging your friendships. you seem like a strong person from your post. its really big of you to not backstab her back or want revenge of any kind. It must have been hard to make the decision to move on. But now that you that have made that decision, perhaps it would be wise for you to forgive what she has done and accept that she will be a person who you will occasionally see, especialy now that she is doing all the things that you love. You say that you dont want to know about her. But its hard to forget the times that you have shared in the last 4 years. It may be easier to allow yourself to thkn about her and reminisc the good times that you shared in the past, and realise that you will be able to make new memories with new people in the future. Of course its eaiser said than done, but you seem to have the first step down pat: you want to move on. There seems to be heaps of other problems in your relationship, ie family (her mum) and her insecurities and also trust issues. You seem like you feel that your relationship is over completely, and that is definitely a very healthy first step. And yes, time heals all wounds. Sometimes it would be great if life had a remote control, and we can fast forward so we dont have to deal with the pain! although it does make us stronger, it wold be easier to just not have to feel it...