briant_9999

Day 31 of NC and going strong ! Thanks so much to everyone here ! Havent heard from her since she said "we both should move on". I pleaded with her on day 1...usual story, but not chasing her this time ! Turns out there was another guy involved as I suspected. Grass is always greener ! I have occasional weak days when I remember the good times but the other guy was the closure I needed. Finding my old self and my smile again which is great. Look after yourselves

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Thanks for the help everyone, especially Crazyaboutdogs ! It's good to get a female perspective sometimes. I just feel that so much time has past I am beginning to lose hope. I guess I'll hang in there and see what happens, it's hard sometimes though. I dont want to pressure her, i want her to want to come back if that makes sense.

Hi, I hope someone can help here....endless thoughts running through my head. This is a summary of my situation. I met a woman about 2 years ago, we are both 37. She is divorced and has a daughter from a previous marriage. I wasnt long out of a long relationship. Bottom line, I didnt treat her very well, she was looking for a quick commitment which I wasnt ready to give and I felt pushed. We split up but got back together but we still had some issues and split up again. My decisions. I hurt her badly which I really regret. After the second split, she went with someone else for a few months, but that ended in July of this year. We were still in contact at this point on and off. During this time apart I had time to think about what I was looking for and life in general. The relationship with the other guy I am sure was a rebound thing but it knocked me for 6. At the time I really wanted a fresh start with her as I realised I loved her deeply and had made a huge mistake. I wrote her a couple of letters telling her this. I was really needy at this point and asked to see her endlessly as I felt she was slipping away. After this she told me she didnt want to go back to a relationship as "too much stuff has happened although she did love me very much" she wanted to be friends though. That was October of this year. I tried to stay friendly but it was just hurting too much so I started NC. After 5 weeks I contacted her on the anniversary of her brothers death, she thanked me for thinking about her and we've contacted each other a few times since. All friendly but non-committal. I am finding the contact hard though so was going to start NC again. I last spoke to her on 22nd Dec. I am at a loss now as to what to do. I want to reassure her somehow that I have changed from the person I was when I was with her. Her dad died on the 2nd Jan last year (She's had a lot of tragedy in her life) and I wanted to send a small card just to let her know I was thinking about her and wish her well for 2007. I am nowhere near as needy as I was, but I would give anything for a fresh start. I am sure there is still love there between us. Has anyone got any thoughts or advice. I could really use some guidance here. Especially with the NC and sending the card. I dont want to contact her too much and look needy as that sure didnt work the last time (it's only been 2 weeks) but I want to show her that I do care deeply. thanks for all your help