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Hi UT. Thanks for your reply. You know, I wasn't entirely sure if my statement was correct about "how can she know she's lesbian if she hasn't even had a kiss like that?" Im naive about that, so what you said makes sense. I like what you said also about my friend. I can talk to her without her pulling away, so I think i might give that a try. Or better yet, maybe I'll just do like you said and be an awesome friend to her. I can try and give up my feelings. P.S. Like the rainbow!

Hi, I currently have a really close friend. Shes Thai, with her parents being very traditional in their beliefs on relationships. I am white and Jewish, and am deeply affectionate for my friend. Supposedly, her parents wont let her date, although she has made an exception in the past for one of our friends - a girl. yea, my thai friend thinks (and might be?) she is a lesbian. she is obsessed with watching the L word and constantly refers to herself as an androgyne. I think that I am myself not 100% straight - i feel more like the pansexual attitude. so im comfortable with her being more masculine or whatever than most girls. its just not an issue. Ive told her how much I like her (i avoid "love" bc its too strong for never having had a relationship with her, although i like her up to that point of "love"), and supposedly, she has said to have liked me too. (she wont tell me this though because also, she doesnt want to lead me on and get my hopes up. supposedly) Im not sure exactly what I want, but i'd like to show my affections toward her and progress our friendship. the problem is that 1) she doesnt "do" relationships 2) she thinks she is/might be a lesbian 3) has thai roots that say no for young relationshp (im ok waiting for her, i just dont know if theres anything to wait for, you know?) what should I do? i am being tormented by it. i see her everyday almost and I just need some help. she is hard to approach about this, bc she seems uncomfortable talking about relationships/feelings like these, espeically since shes only had one relationship (a short-lived one with no contact or actual dates) and hasnt even had a kiss. (which leads me to question how can she know shes completely lesbian if shes never kissed a guy/girl or done anything? is that possible?) any suggestions? thanks! MR

hi caro33! thanks for repsoning. im a guy. the cultural difference onyl really matters in both of our respected parents views about relationships, views we kind of shrug off but still are inbred in us. now, my question is this: (mainly because i dont want to face that maybe she isnt interested in me), is it possible that she just changes the subject because shes uncomfortable talking with me about it? i mean our mutual friends who know the situation have told me that she does like me a lot and doesnt want to lead me on in case of getting my hope up. do you think this could be a possibility? our friendship is pretty comfortable and i do feel capable of asking straight out. i like that advise. maybe i can try and muster up the courage again to ask her (it took me so much just to tell her how i felt, because i didnt want to make things awkward between us. but it turned out to not be awkward at all). thank you so much for helping me MR

Hi, I currently have a really close friend. Shes Thai, with her parents being very traditional in their beliefs on relationships. I am white and Jewish, and am deeply affectionate for my friend. Supposedly, her parents wont let her date, although she has made an exception in the past for one of our friends - a girl. yea, my thai friend thinks (and might be?) she is a lesbian. she watches the L word and constantly refers to herself as an androgyne. I think that I am myself not 100% straight - i feel more like the pansexual attitude. Ive told her how much I like her (i avoid "love" bc its too strong for never having had a relationship with her, although i like her up to that point of "love"), and supposedly, she likes me too. Im not sure exactly what I want, but i'd like to show my affections toward her and progress our friendship. the problem is that 1) she doesnt "do" relationships 2) she thinks/might be a lesbian 3) has thai roots that say no. what should I do? i am being tormented by it. i see her everyday almost and I just need some help. she is hard to approach about this, bc she changes that topic often (i have tried several times). any suggestions? thanks! MR