bobi_nmi

Thanks for the great advice. I need to digest the fact of him moving out and us "starting over". I am just worried that the trust issues would get worse. With him living here, I know a lot more of what is going on than I would if he had a place of his own. At least I know he isn't out late running the streets every night. I know I don't have it that bad, but I still have trust issues. I just need help moving past that. How do you mend something that has been so hurt? I warned him in the beginning of our relationship that if someone hurts me, I hold grudges...not healthy, I know. But at least I warned him.

Should I go talk to a professional? Am I acting crazy?

I think about that everyday. It just sucks because we have spent the last 6 months moving his stuff out of his mother's house and into mine. It would be so weird here without him. But at the same time, I know something has to change.

Well after I found the emails, I found out his password because he is dumb...lol. He left his email open one day after he had registered for something online. It showed his screen name and password. I remembered he had once told me his password was the same for everything. I knew his password for about 2 months before telling him I knew it. He wasn't mad because I had just busted him on a lie. I investigate everything before I question. Now he knows that if I come to him with a question, I already know the answer. It took him awhile to learn that and that is how I busted him, but now he knows. He also has all of my passwords, which I gave to him because I have NOTHING to hide. I don't know why he lies. He even lies to his mother. It is like a habit to him now. It is mostly dumb stuff, but it makes a person wonder what else he is lying about.

Hello everyone! Okay this is a long story but I will keep it short. I have been in a relationship for a little over a year. I am 26 yrs old and my boyfriend is 21 yrs old. I recently bought a house and he is now living in it with me. I knew when he first moved in that he only had a part time job and would only be able to pay $150.00 a month. My mortgage alone is over $1000.00 a month. I knew he was going to school for real estate so I decided to be supportive. It is now 6 months later and he is still only paying $150.00 a month. A month after he moved in I found some emails that he had been sending back and forth with multiple other girls, younger and older. It really hurt to read some of them and how he talked to them. Of course he was in pure denial when I asked him about them. He acted as if it had happened right around when we first started dating 6 months prior but in reality, it was only a month ago. I kicked him out and accepted him back the very same night. I have also caught him in multiple lies, some small and some big. I don't know how he expects me to trust him again if he keeps lying to me. He thinks I am over reacting. I know all of his passwords to everything (at least I think I do). But it still doesn't help. I constantly think he is lying to me and is really out looking for someone else. Does he really love me and want to be with me or is he just staying with me because it is easy (money wise)? Sometimes I feel like such a fool! I hate feeling this way and I know I am driving him crazy by checking up on him. I really want it to work but it is only a matter of time before I break or he gets tired of it and leaves.