ravendances

My fiance and I have been dating about 11 months and we got engaged about 3 months ago. I have been completely honest about everything I have done in the past, and the two years before I met him I had a pretty rebelious streak. Since we have been dating, I spend every day with him. I drive 45 minutes to see him everyday. I no longer go out with friends because this upsets him. Although he says I can go out when ever I want to. And if I ask him to go out with me and my firends, he is in a horrible mood, because I used to do things with them that I don't do anymore (drinking and partying, etc.) So I have stopped talking to almost all of my friends, because of him. He is the most important thing in my life, and when he is not talking about my past, we have a great time together. But he will see something on TV or hear something in a conversation and it reminds him of when I was a "party girl" and he can no longer focus on our relationship. I have suggested going to counseling with him, but he refuses. His suggesting and demand, are for me to just "make it go away". Are there any suggestions of what I can do to help him realize that this is a problem?

My boyfriend is the most amazing guy that I could possibly ask for. We have not been together for that long and I know that may sound a little premature. In most previous relations, oral sex has always been a preview of what was to come in the sexual aspects of the relationship, but he has yet to go down on me. He is the only person who has completely satisfied me in intercourse alone, so I did not really think it was a huge deal. In talking, after making love, we have disscused oral sex. I love oral sex, both giving and recieving, and I have just learned the reason for him not pleasuring me in that way, is that he has never done it before. I find this a little odd, and at the same time frustrating. He is willing to do anything to please me, but I have never incountered this before, because all previous partners have been far more experienced than I. Now I want to teach him, but I am not sure on how to approach it gently, while making him feel comfortable. Any addvice on how to make him feel at ease and still teach him to be as wild as I would like?