I know it's hard to put this the right way; whatever I try to say seems to come out wrong… But I'll try anyway…
In terms of female attractiveness, younger is always better.
Firmer, rounder is always better.
Without trying to say that nothing else matters to men, … men will always find younger, firmer, rounder girls better looking. They may CHOOSE to be with someone not as good-looking b/c of their other qualities – but when it comes to sex, but they will always be tempted by cute little things. They may CHOOSE to resist the temptation, but the idea that my beloved hubby of 20 years is TEMPTED by any cute little girl that comes into his vision still bothers me so much!
He actually HAS to DO something to prevent himself from acting on his desires! To resist. Resist what? Other woman's body that he finds more desirable than mine?
AND I'M SUPPOSED TO BE HAPPY AND GRATEFUL BECAUSE HE MANAGED TO RESIST?!
I don't get this.
COULD SOMEONE PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE EXPLAIN THAT TO ME?
I'm 45 and I don't find 18 year old guys better looking than 50 yo. I can't even look at them 'that way'. They are kids for goodness sake! They are the same age as our son! How could I look at them sexually?!
But my husband CAN – I mean he can still find 18 yo girls sexually attractive. He can still find them better looking than me. Ok, I asked him specifically about that, but still… even after a specific question I could not (honestly!) say that 18 yo males are 'better looking'.
I guess, I'm venting a bit here… Sorry… I'm 45 and as not as good looking as I used to be…Maybe this is just my middle life crisis…
I realise I'm the unreasonable one here for not being able to accept the facts of life.
I guess, my question is: next time we see some young, sexy girl around, how can I feel good (or at least not this bad) about the fact that he thinks she has better boobs…or but… or whatever?
At the end of the day, he is making a compromise by being with me. Who would not want better-looking woman if he could get one?
I apologise to all men if I sounded harsh and not fair. My value system has been so shattered now…