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Hey Jenn - Welcome to ENA!

 

I think you should just bring it up.

 

If you want any kind of future with this guy, you've got to feel comfortable talking to him about things that are important to you. Even the uncomfortable or uncertain things.

 

Just ask him his thoughts on moving in. Is he still considering it or has he decided not to. You just want to know. You're not grilling him. You're not giving him ultimatums, you just want to know...

i agree. just ask him. thats the best way to find out whats goin on!

i agree with what the rest said- you absolutely did the right thing!

if you already have a "set of rules"...do you really think she would dance with other men anyway?

i'm really sorry to hear about that. but, if he didn't give you answers then...he most likely wont give you answers now. just go with NC. if he dumped you over the phone after 2 years and didn't even tell you why...trust me hun, he's not worth your time!

yeah, i think i'm with every other woman who has answered this question. i'm 5'4"...i use the same rule, they have to be tall enough that when i wear hells, i'm not taller than them. girls like tall guys....at 6 feet, no worries for you at all!

i too am proud of you for choosing NC. trust me, its for the best. i know you want to email her and make sure she doesn't forget about you, but don't. it'll just make it a lot harder. keep NC going and you will heal faster- i guarantee it. in the meantime, just keep dealing with it day by day. it gets better, i promise you. best wishes!

i'd say just meet him when you are in disguise and reveal then. if he really likes you for you , then he likes you. if doesn't...well, at least you'll find out quick. keep us posted!

yea, i dont think there's really a way to tell. you just gotta ask if she doesn't offer up the info!

I wouldn't mind at all pitching in to pay for the ring I want. Or even paying for a good deal of it myself.

 

I just want to be proposed to though. And not with an ugly ring. I'm very particular with the jewlery I wear and would want a major say in it.

i'm with you!!! lol

when you make plans together, go and enjoy. if he calls you the next day trying to make plans for dinner or something, just make the plans for later in the week. that way you have control over the situation, and he'll know your busy so he won't be calling you 24/7 to see if you can get together.

depends on what ingredients you put into the smoothie, but if it's fresh fruit and milk, that is very healthy for you! so enjoy your blender!

^^that is the best advice you are going to get. take it.

is she like this with all guys?

if she is, there's your answer.

if she isn't- duh- she likes you!

i agree- just go for it. and hope for the best. if it doesn't work out, there's still the possiblity of being friends- as long as you both have enough time to heal

good job on that- glad to hear you're doing well! just ignore her...she'll get the message that you don't need her anymore (as it should be!). best wishes

he needs to understand that keeping this from his ex is only doing harm to everyone involved, especially you. if you've repeatedly told him how you feel and he isn't listening, he may not be ready for your relationship in the first place. he shouldn't act ashamed of you- dump him

yeah, i agree with the rest- she's making herself look like an idiot, not you. just stay away from her, she's obviously not worth a second thought!

hun, if you cheated on him and he cheated on you that is NOT a healthy relationship. and considering you were going to have to break up anyway at the end of the summer, why would you even want him back? there is something better out there for you- go find it.

i think its an excellent idea for you guys to wait a few years before you get married. you're both still young, and you've got your whole lives ahead of you! if you're planning to spend that time together, there's no reason why you shouldn't be able to try and sort out your individual lives right now. best of luck to you both

okay, so i dated this guy about 3 years ago. i fell for him quickly and he said he really liked me too. after a few months, he broke up with me because he said "i didn't have my priorities straight". after he broke up with me, he tried to continue the relationship as if we were still together, but i wouldn't let him. and ever since that time...he constantly tries to hang around me and talk to me. he'll send me emails and try to IM me. and all he wants to talk about is how much in love with me he is and how letting me go was the biggest mistake. i've asked him to stop saying that, i've tried everything...i even told him i dont like him like that and i never will, but he won't go away! even after i got a new boyfriend, he still kept saying he loves me and wants me back. this has been an ongoing problem for 3 years. somtimes he'll go a month or so without talking to me, but even after that he still says he's in love with me. any ideas on how i can get him to back off and leave me alone?

it's really good that you're working on that. building confidence in yourself is essential, especially if you want to have relationships with other people! some of it is all talk....some of it works. just keep tryin! if you ever wanna talk, just message me!

usually some of them are my friends and i dont call em on, like one time i got into an argument wit one of them cuz she was making fun of light skinned and i try to avoid that

hmm...some of them are your friends? sounds like you need a better group of friends hun!

thnx i cross my fingers too, although i think even if im not ugly and i got some looks it wont get me no where still, its all about personality which i think mine sux and i been tryina work on it

don't put yourself down like that! this is what was being mentioned earlier...it's not about skin color, its about confidence. you can't expect any girl out there to like you if you don't learn to like yourself!

i've never heard of that theory...but i seriously doubt if you can ever prove it. even if you could...why exactly is it relevant? lol, i dunno. but all i know is i'm right handed and straight, and my best friend is let handed and straight too. so who knows?

thank you. it's not necessarily what i want to hear lol, its tough to sit on the side and watch, but its good advice.

i'm sorry to hear all that, because to be perfectly honest the situation is not looking good. her blowing you off like that is sending major signs- and not the kind you want to be getting. if you are her first real boyfriend, it could quite possibly be that she wants to break it off but doesn't know how, so she's just pushing you away. it could also be that something else between you two is bothering her and she's just not saying it maybe? but what i think you need to do is call her up and talk to her about it. that's the only way to find out for sure. and if it's something you don't want to hear...just know that everythings for the best in the end! best of luck