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The realist in me says "You can't control another person's desires". They have to be interested in you atleast a little bit before you'd have a chance with them which is why I'd prefer to atleast be friends with someone before it evolves into more. The thing is we keep looking weather we want to or not, it's human nature unfortunately. Just walking around a store you think "hey she's kinda cute" but who in their right mind risks going after someone you know nothing about at all. Just because she attracts you that dosent mean there arn't 5 things about her you'd immidietly hate about her that arnt evident. (ie, drug user, alcoholic, tattoos, mental instability, chews bubblegum, golddigger, etc.) When people say you need to like yourself first before other's will I find that ridiculous because it dosent take into effect that I could be my own biggest fan and look like some kind of slug creature, the only woman that might like me then would have to be blind possibly deaf. There is somethingto be said for having charisma if you arnt always down on yourself but that's only a tiny portion of the relationship equation.

Man I wish I'd have come here first. My thread was full of that "don't worry, be happy" type of response.

After reading your thread I started to end my thread at the other forum. not because I'm joining yours as I can see after 90 some odd posts your problem is barely any better than mine was after not even a 3rd of that. We just arnt going to find an answer, we are destined to roam the world in a constant state of anger and depression until we either die or something outside of our sphere of influence changes the status quo. You arnt going to find the perfect one you're after any more than I'm going to find the adequet one I'm after. I doubt they'll ever find use because they just arnt looking abd I won't blow smoke up your * * * that maybe I'm wrong and there is something tht can happen but it's all we can do to keep moving. people do still rely on us for things, I have a project I need to finish for my friends so I can't let this depression stop me any more... atleast for a while. I'm sure in a couple of weeks I'll be back to feeling crappy but what can I do>?suicide just means I let more people down. so I keep going hoping that I can brighten someone's day. remember folks a "thank you" or an appricitative acknoledgment can help a person more thank you think, for some of us it's all we have to go on. Thanks Kevin, You didn't actually help my problem but you;ve made it possible that I'm not beating my head against the wall as hard as I was yesterday.

I can't believe it it's like I'm reading 90% of myself in Kevins posts. I tried a similar thread on another forum, feel free to go read it: link removed I'm a little more upbeat but I made almost the exact same points and everyone refuses to except the fact that I have issue I can't change. Unlike Kevin I havent even had the privlage of a first love, My peer group consists of about the same 10 or 12 people and non of them are in a position to set me up on a blind date and I wouldn't go even if they could because I don't have the social skills to navigate something so loaded.

Finally I find a forum where someone els is asking a similar question. I tried asking how to cope with being perpetually alone on another relationship forum and they seem to refuse to accept it's possible to end up alone forever. I've reconciled the fact that my poor social skills amoungst other problems have desinted me to be alone but I need to know how to cope with it. Please, if anyone has suggestions? Oh wow! there's even already a thread here with a similar question to mine Sorry! I hadn't seen that yet.