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I misread youre question the first time. sorry about that. I think he may be just so comfortable with you going to see him that he would rather have you do that. Is he paying for the ticket? If he is then why dont you go see him? It costs alot to travel and if hes paying for you, he likes you very much. If you want him to come see you, then you need to tell him why. Why? to meet youre family? To meet your friends? You need to ask yourself, Do I want to marry him? Because if you do, it sounds like you will be living in his country. Do you want that? E mail me if you have any other questions.

It sounds like your situation is a bit different since I am assuming you are having a long distance relationship with this guy. Just let me tell you I think any long distance relationship is extremely difficult, not that it wont work, but eventually you need to spend time together and if youre not there for months ...... well, But I would talk to him, ask him some serious questions, he said he doesnt want to see you when he does travel to THIS COUNTRY, I would say that is a pretty big sign that he may not be the one for you. He should be saying yes I am so looking forward to seeing you, its been too long , i love you, you see? I dont know him but, I think you should consider not dating long distance, ive never had success with that for long periods.

How long do you all recommend doing NC for? I DO want to get back together with my ex and I was planning on sending her a short note telling her I want to discuss some things, along with some flowers. It has been 5 weeks since the breakup, I emailed her and called her a couple times in the first week, then started the NCing. Ive been NCing for about 31 days now. Any avice on how long I should NC her before trying to reestablish communication? Or if Im going about this the right way? By the way: She was the one that broke up with me. She didn't like my temper, which I have worked on in the last month and realize I was wrong. I know she was really mad at me, I hope she has cooled down.

The main topic on this wonderful, terrific board seems to be NC. I just have a question about it. Has this worked for anyone here? I mean is it worth it and are any of you back with your exes? I understand the healing yourself part of it and I do believe it is the best thing to do after you break up with someone, I am just curious if it has worked for any of you and if you are back with your ex and happy now, I realize every relationship is different but I am just curious what has worked for those that have had success.

"If you can keep your head while all the others around you are losing theirs.... ...get somebody to explain the situation to you. Author unknown" Ta ree saw, you are so funny, youre quote basically says if youre not losing your temper, compusure, then you dont understand whats going on, and then you criticize me for getting mad in my situation. You are too funny. But I do appreciate your comments, I guess I will have to rethink this some more, and maybe later down the road see where I am.

Well that is my point, The point being we havent got to know each other that well, and yes I made a big mistake, but my point is I really have feelings for this person and I would correct whatever needs to be corrected to get another chance. I mean shes bouncing back to her ex now who she told me it wasnt getting any better with. Im just asking what I could possibly do to make things better between us, I dont want to give up on her after one fight, I mean how many couples have never fought, plus the reason I got mad was she fell for this jerkoff and it lasted three weeks, I was so frustrated. It wasnt like I got mad at her and called her names for going out to the bar with girlfriends or anything, I had a good reason. I guess maybe I should just give up, but Im not ready to yet so Im just asking what I could possibly do to make her see that I really do care about her and I believe we are right for each other, I know this is an unusual situation, thats why I dont know what to do. p.s. she has issues, she is on effexor, So I think she may do things without really thinking things out, I just have stroing feelings for her and want her to know how much I care an that I am there for her.

Yes, thanks for responding ty ree saw, I totally understand what youre saying, I know I have hurt her feelings, but there has to be something I can say to her, apologize to her or something. People shouldnt be so sensitive that they will throw away what could be a good thing because of what really wasnt that bad of a thing given the context of the situation. I understand your point and maybe thats what I should do, but I just dont want to give up on her that easily.

Hi, I am new to this forum, it seems like a great forum but I joined because I really need some good advice. I would appreciate any advice I can get. This is an unusual situation. I met this girl two months ago, we met through an online dating service. We went out a couple of times and talked online and on phone for about a month, not enough to really say I have "I love you" feelings or anything. But I was really infatuated with her and I think it showed because I was a little nervous when speaking to her and such. Anyways, she kinda stopped emailing me and when I asked her she told she had "met someone else and was going to see how it worked out". Well I lost control of myself, because I liked her so much, and said some pretty rude things to her , about how I was getting back with my ex and how I deleted her pictures and I was glad she wouldnt infect my computer and didn't have to see her ugly face. Kinda funny looking back on it, but man I regret it. Anyways, she stopped speaking to me about a month ago, I tried for a week, emailing her but she didnt email me back. Well I found out this new guy that she left me for was a real bozo and they totally broke up, I havent contacted her for about three weeks, but I so want to write her aletter or something, I really like her so much, I just have a feeling there is something there. But I found out today that she is seeing her ex again, a guy she has already tried with twice and broken up with twice. So now I know I wont contact her to soon. What can I do? Sorry this is so long and thanks in advance for your advice.