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thanks for all your advice guys, it seems to me that your verdicts are all fairly unanimous. I will ask her about it pretending to know nothing, then at least i will know where i stand with regards to her lying about it. I don't know what i will do as far as the relationship is concerned. It changes everything knowing that she has at least mentally cheated on me, maybe more. If she lies i will want to break up but i dont know if i can! anyway guys thanks again its nice to know there are people who give a * * * * about other's feelings out there!

Hey guys, i read on here a few posts of some people who's bfs/gfs had profiles on dating sites, most people arrived at the conclusion that they were old accounts just not deleted. Well, the other day my girlfriend randomly told me that she had a guy send her a naked picture of himself. I was shocked and asked her why. She told me he was just a weirdo on a website, but she refused to say what. I was upset but gave her the benefit of the doubt that she had just met a weirdo on the net. anyway, a few days after, she told me about a couple who had offered to have sex with her. This time i was cross, I thought she had been on a swingers type website, but she again denied it and said i was being unfair. I didnt drop it though, and eventually she gave me the name of the site, which was m a t e 1 . c o m. I viewed the site, and saw plastered all over it the slogan "intimate dating" I was very cross and rang her immediately to ask what she was doing on it. she had only signed up a few weeks beofre, and we have been dating for nearly 2 years . she told me she didnt see their slogan which is bull as yopu would see if you visited the site. After a large row, i said ok i believe you, and just left it for then. But i was suspicious, I hacked her email account and then this dating accoutn. It is impossible to say what she has been saying to people in chat but it is clear the site is not innocent. The problem is i also found very recent signups to 2 more sites, one called xxxmates or something similar, the other is called cybersexchat. I am very angry, there is no way of visiting those sites in a n innocent manner i dont feel. The problem is asking her about it without her being very cross about me hacking her email. I dont know what to do, is anyone else having a similar problem? help!

hey guys. Thanks for the ideas. yes there could have been things that i resented her for, maybe in the back of my mind the guy she got with last time and how she could do that, or silly little things like me always having to visit her. I agree fawn, I think it's best for the both of us to not talk or see each other, at least until I know I only want to be her friend, and then I will see how she feels on the matter. Unfortunately, I have broken that already, she rang me to ask for a lift, because her mother was not well, and I couldn't say no, i am too kind, or maybe I was worried she would find some other guy to take her, but thats not my business anymore. I noticed that on the way she kept sending messages on her fone. it made me jealous and I know I shouldn't, I dont want to, but I an't help it. I never used to be jealous when we were together!!! I think I'm getting a control over myself and realizing it is whats best for both of us. thanks for the advice everyone

hey. Well, I just get this overwhelming feeling of loneliness and missing her. I feel as if my heart is burning, I cannot explain, maybe it is love, although I guess i don't know what that is! How can you love someone even though you hate their guts?! Maybe I just miss the company, I'm between jobs at the minute and am sitting around at home doing nothing, thats probably making it worse. This site made me feel better, reading all of the help posts, about what it is that a relationship is for. I've just spoken to her on the phone she seems happy. Which is good for her, but makes me feel worse! Maybe the worst is over. I doubt it though. I've never lasted more than 6 days before, 3 days in, its not lookin great! I have no idea what I'll do if i try and get her back and she refuses. Ask your boyfriend if he is happy with your relationship, ask him if he feels suffocated, or controlled, or if he needs a break. That is how i felt. if he says he feels that way, you need to sort that out. If he says he isnt, he might be lying. I would never tell her I was unhappy, but thats jut me, im very closed with my feelings. maybe things will look up, i dont want to hurt her more.

I have broken up with my girlfriend of about 1.5 years about 3 days ago. Let's just say It's not the first time! But every time I do it, I always get back with her. It is always me who does the dumping, and It is always me who does the grovelling to get back with her. When we are together I can't stand her, i feel like I want to punch her in the face most of the time (although I don't!) but every time we split up, after 2 or 3 days, i can't stop myself crying when i think of her, and I feel like I desperately want her back, knowing full well it will end the same way. last time we broke up and got back together after 6 days, she had found someone else but broke up with him to get back with me. I feel like a loser, and a selfish jerk for keep doing it to her. I've got to get over her. She says she wants to be friends, will this help?? i don't know.......... i wrote a poem for her, that she will never read: While we were 'us', we'd always fight, I couldnt stand you then. But its 'her and him' and I've lost sight of why we had to end. When we were one it seemed as if I could punch you in the face, but now it seems I want you back as tears run down my face. But I'm too late, you won't have me back, not after so many tries. And as I sit alone at night my lonely heart does cry. "It's for the best" they say to me but what do they all know. 'cause now I'm left in misery with nothing left to show. So, I want you back? it would be the same, within a week we'd fight. And I know the track, I'd pass the blame, and it would end in spite. You wont have me back, so it matters not, and all this has no point. Now my souls pitch black and you looking hot and I just dissappoint. It's all my fault we've been here before, last time was my last chance. your life won't halt, You're mine no more you'll find some more romance. I think that says it pretty well. I need to get over her. help!