I'll try and keep this short, but I was seeing this woman for a few months and I really fell for her and seemed to have fallen for me as well. We also happened to work one cubicle away from each other. After a couple of months of us seeing each other, she confessed to me that before we were seeing each other, she had been involved in a 3 week relationship with the guy sitting on the other side of me! We all know each other. But he didn't know about her and I - we kept it discreet for professional reasons.
That threw me, but I let it go since it was before our time together. But I noticed that she always kept talking about him and I started to think that she maybe hadn't gotten over him. Sure enough, I was right. Within a month, se started seing him again. He was a consultant from out of town and so he was only there during the week. She promised me that she just needed to resolve her feelings about him and that in 2 weeks she would dump him. She would spend nights with him during the week and I was absolutely miserable. But I was so stupid, that I would see her on weekends - hoping to win her back.
Well the 2 weeks came and went and she seemed to still be with him. But suddenly he decided to take another assignment and was gone for good. In short time, she then became "all mine". She now wants to us to stay together for ever. It's been 6 months now ..
All of the sudden, like in the past week or so, I'm feeling angry about this. I feel as though I can never get passed what happened. I always will feel like I'm the #2 guy, the fallback guy, the convenient one. I don't know whether or not to bring this up or not because there's not much she can do about it now. There's nothing she can say that won't ring empty of meaning. I don't want to end it with her - but at the same time, I don't think I'll ever be able to marry her or anything because of this.
Should I talk to her about it?
