SadnGeorgia

Also....this is really good. In his little quote on his personal ad, he says he wants to find someone to share love and TRUST....funny huh...trust...I counted about 5 lies in his profile alone!

Well to answer Hope75....I copied his single post and sent it to him in his email...with a few nice things to say....can you believe he had the nerve to use pictures in his post that I took of him! And no, we haven't spoke and I don't want to at this point. All he is going to do is try to turn it back around on me, I don't need to hear that. And venus77...thank you, I agree with you....but the funny thing is is this was my second serious relationship(long-term) and the first ended pretty much the same except for the fact that I had gotten pregnant and so did the girl he was cheating on me with....yes our children are about 2 weeks apart.....it took me years to get over that one.....I don't know how long this one will take.

I am fairly new here. I recently posted under Trust and Relationships. I was having trouble trusting my bf of 3 years (fiance of 6 months). He had been dishonest with me, and in return told me we need to take a break. I found out that he has had a personal ad on one of the personals website for almost 2 months now. Heartbreaking yet relieved I finally know the truth. I know it is the easy way out for him to put me on hold and hopefully I would just disappear. I just wish he could have been honest and came forward, it would have hurt but I wouldn't have had false hope. All I can say, is that when you are having trouble in your relationship, always go with your gut feeling. Because your mind probably agrees with it, it is your hurting heart that doesn't. All week long I was dying to talk to him wanting to work things out and tell him how I was feeling. Now, I find this out and no longer want any contact, nor will he get a hold of me!

He was supposed to be flying back to where he is working on Sunday. He flew back on Saturday and tried to lie and say he didn't. He did finally tell me he left Saturday, but it was to surprise me, but not anymore and we need space....blah blah blah.....I really need to change the forum on this post to breakups. I found he had posted a personal a few weeks back looking to meet someone in the area he is in....I feel so much better, I should have gone with my instincts in the first place. If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck...it probably is a duck!

I agree with you, I just keep finding myself thinking and wondering. I don't want to lose what we had. And it feels that is what is happening. Of course , I feel down and he is the only one right now that can change that. I realize I can't make him make me feel better about the situation. I will keep moving on, and see what happens on his end. I believe in the saying: If you love something, let it free...if it comes back to you, it's yours....if not, it never was

Thank you for your input. I have to clarify that he didn't say he needed his space until after I found out he was being dishonest. That seems to be his answer alot when we argue. The problem at hand never gets handled. I will definitely give him all the space and time he needs. When we have had this problem in the past, it would normally take a few days and we would talk and get back on track. Today makes a week, I know doesn't sound like a long time, but for me, it has been a lifetime. Just want to know how long is too long before I should initiate a talk or move on with my life.

Hello, this is my first time posting here. I have really been struggling with my situation and need some advice. My bf and I have been in our relationship for 3 years now. We have had our ups and downs like anyone else. Me personally, I have an issue with trust. In my defense, I was previously in a 10 year relationship, had 3 children and then got cheated on. Of course, that broke my heart and it was a long time (almost 2 yrs) before I dated again. In my current relationship, the trust issue has come up many times, we both got over it. Well at least I thought he had. I promised myself and him I will work harder on it. Then there comes certain situations that make me go hmm...for instance, his cell phone...rarely will keep turned on when with me, or won't take calls when I am around. Maybe nothing, but that is one of my trust issues. Anyways, we are currently living together, however he has been out of town working(by choice) for about 6 months. I had also gone to work there for about a month back in October. While I was there, he proposed, ring and all. At that moment, something changed and I have not felt any bad feelings of distrust. He has come home many times to visit. Work is really slowing down there. We had originally planned on getting married around this time. Things have gotten pretty rough on him there, including injuring himself pretty bad. I have been on him alot lately about coming home. He tells me he can't, that he has to stay and work longer. The weekend before Valentine's Day he was dishonest with me about his whereabouts. I of course didn't take this well, and couldn't reach him to talk or argue...When we did finally talk, he told me he was going to surprise me for Valentine's Day and come visit, but not anymore and he thinks we need to take a break because I have been pushing him and not trusting him. The funny thing is about 2 weeks ago I told him I feel we are drifting apart and communication hasn't been good lately. I have given him space...Tomorrow will be a week...what's Next? Sorry for going on and on...had to give you the "big picture"