analyticalgirl

I remember the first time my boyfriend got a boner while we were making out. I loved it....but it embarresed him that I noticed. I like it, but maybe the guys get a little embarresed.

I completely agree with the last post. I think that's a common problem and you shouldn't feel like something is wrong with you. You don't have an age up here so I'm guessing you're pretty young. There's nothing wrong about being confused as to what you are. I'm confused about it myself. In todays society it seems like we always have to label things and ourselves, but do we really have to? My advice would be to go with the flow, whatever happens...happens for a reason and it will all work out in the end. You don't have to know for certain if you're Lesbian or Bi...in time, it will come to you. Now as for the sexual part of a relationship...have you asked yourself why you're uncomfortable with it? Do you not like something about your body? Are you afraid of doing something wrong? When you think things like this, it takes away from what you're doing and can cause you to not be able to have an orgasm with someone. When you're alone, you're more comfortable and can just let go because the," What are they thinking?" factor isn't there. Don't feel bad about not having an orgasm when you're with someone. Many things come into play with it. Being comfortable is one of them, but also your age and stage of sexual development. The female body reaches its sexual prime much later than the male body, so don't sweat it too much. When you masturbate, its because you're taking care of your sexual desire at that moment in time. Sometimes when you're with someone you can't get aroused enough for it....its normal!!

Well, here's some more info. on this whole thing. She's a lesbian, I'm not sure exactly if I'm lesbian or bi...but that's not the issue. I've told her about all this and we talked about it. She and I are very separated right now, she's in the United States and I am in Europe. I went to vivsit her this summer and we taled about it while I was there. We had talked about it before and everytime we talk about it she ask's, "So what do you want to do about it?" This question always terrified me because I didn't know what to do about it. I'm young and inexperienced, she's 8 years older than me and knows a lot more than I do. While I visited her, after we talked about all this, we ended up in her bed.....twice. After all of that was over, we were both confused on why it happened? Was it because we were aroused and had some sexual frustration going on or was it because we both wanted it to happen a long time ago? I've been attracted to her for a long time and wasn't aware that she was attracted to me a little too. But, what this all comes down to is...we are both confused. She wants to toss this up to being honry and in a room with someone who would gladly take care of it for her. I don't want to call it that at all. I don't know if she thinks of me often, but I can't stop thinking of her. I don't care if we ever have a relationship...she's a great friend and I wouldn't mind for it to stay that way.

DO you think about some one almost constantly everyday?

OK, I'm really beginning to think there is something wrong with me. I have this terrific friend in my life, she has helped me through so much and has help me to grow as an individual tremendously. I absolutely treasure our friendship and would never want anything to come between us, but there is a slight problem. I’m very attracted to her, not just physically. I love spending time with her and there is a part of me who would love nothing more than to be with her. There is not a day that goes by that I don’t think of her some how and it scares me because I think there’s something wrong with me. This has been going on for a long time and I’m not sure if its normal and happens to a lot of people or if I’m an obsessed freak! What is up with me?](*,)