Fender

If she's not attracted, yes I agree it is her right. I am not laying blame. As for her being passive-aggressive, granted I shouldn't blame her for her method, but it is another slap in the face and if she doesn't see me one last time, I'll disown her in a sense (even though it is apparently looking the other way around, it's uncalled for and unfair and I'll have to simply move on without the "I'm never talking to you again," line). The fact that drugs were involved wasn't the main problem, but a symptom of a decade of occasional moments of outrageous dishonesty. Her evident deceit is one last lie I'll swallow from her. Nevertheless, today, since I'm moving in January, I'll left one last message until she calls that goes, ", "I don't feel that I should keep calling you, so this is my last call until I hear from you again. I've got a reservation for an airplane ticket to Austin in January. As you know, I'm relocating. I'd really like to do something with you. If you'd like to hang out before I leave, give me a call." As usual, with her cell phone caller ID showing my number and with everyone in my local area being snowed in, she didn't pick up. Then I won't call her again. I don't expect to hear from her again. There's no point in a lecture. It's probably a dead duck, so to speak. But since I only have 5 weeks left in my hometown, it is important, if she's interested to see her one last time. But if not, then what transpired this last month is unforgivable. Her lies and passive-aggressiveness let me down at crunch time. I'll never forgive her if she doesn't at least call me one last time, knowing that I'm relocating thousands of miles away.

No, I'm not just looking for sex. For 10 years this girl has been VERY special to me. She's my first love. I just want to say goodbye before I move 2000 miles in a month. With ecstasy being a love drug, it's a strong possibility. Why else would 2 pills out of a 10-pill batch work for me and a friend at separate times, yet not affect her, unless she was acting? I don't think I'm paranoid. Actually, I'd be naive, I think, not to consider that possibility. She does have a history of lying, unfortunately. No, I don't want her just for the sex. I'd like to at least know that I haven't been demoted to her perpetual diickleess friend. (Even though she says her hormones make her not attracted to anyone, at times I think she is just being polite). In the last 10 years, she always had that attraction. It's not just that she isn't interested. With this love drug that supposedly didn't affect her, knowing that me and a friend felt fine from 3 different experiences with this 10-pill batch--it feels like the ultimate betrayal, someone faking taking a love drug only to probably do it with someone else. I'm not a shallow druggy but was desperate to use what put her in a good mood years ago. It didn't work. I guess since I'm relocating over 2000 miles away in 5 weeks, I'll call leaving a light, and brief message to this first love in which I say, "I've got airplane tickets for January. I shouldn't keep calling you, so this is my last call until I hear from you. I'd really like to do something this month since I won't have time in January.If you'd like to get together, give me a call." This is what I plan to say tomorrow. I know she isn't into me, but should I overlook the faking of taking a love drug, or if things don't go well on the date should I give a restrained piece of mind? Or if my meeting with her, if it happens, is another indifferent experience from her, shouldn't I just tell her that I have to go in a dignant tone of voice? Please advise Mr. Heartbroken (or is it Mr HeartStabbed?)

There's an ex-fiancee of mine who I hadn't talked to in 2 years. We had a 9 year on-again/off-again relationship and used to occasionally take ecstasy together and make love during the experience. There is a 17 year age difference. Now I'm 32 years old and she's 49 years old. So fast forward to the present. We've been broken up for 2 years and she calls me out of the blue. Since she inherited money, she offers me $5000, but says that due to a budget I'd get it in $500 or $1000 increments. So unlike the other times when we got back together, she didn't get sexual with me in our 2 meetings (a first). So even though we hardly spoke in those 2 years, she used menopause as, possibly,a blanket excuse for not being sexual at all with me. She claimed that she didn't find herself attracted to anyone due to menopause when I laughed and said, "I guess your attraction to me is gone." So I decided to get ecstasy to make an exciting sexual experience for the both of us. I still gave that the benefit of the doubt about the menopause being the reason she couldn't, unlike ever before, get sexual--even though my gut thought otherwise. Well, after 3 weeks of her being cold and indifferent, I finally leave a message in which I say, "I'm sitting on some good stuff. At this rate, if I don't hear from you, I'll take it without you." So she calls back all nice and sweet, unlike she had been since we started talking again a month ago. Caller ID kept probably kept her from ever answering those 3 weeks. She always claimed she was sleeping or something. So the night I bring the ecstasy over, she CLAIMS that is has no effect on her. Then she tells me, 8 hours later, around midnight, that she needs to drive me home. So she does and it occurs to me later, after I got home, that I had been had. I called 5 times the next day and she claims the same thing. Here's the problem. Me and a friend split a 10-pack of ecstasy pills. I took some before my date with my ex and it worked. The friend who got the other 5 pills said it worked for her. So if my ex is claiming that the pills didn't affect her, isn't she lying to me? How should I go about confronting this? I have one more month left on the east coast and like a fool, I want to call that ex and leave a message saying that I'm moving in a month and would like to get together one last time. Then if she can't get physical with me, I'll let her know that my friend's experience confirmed that she was lying to me. All I could think was that I spent 2 weeks trying to score that stuff, caring about what she thought about me, yet chances are that she sent me on my way the night she didn't supposedly get affected by the stuff, only to probably take the "love drug" with someone else. Or at the very least lied to me. What should I do? Let it go and see her one more time, or let her know if our last meeting doesn't even end up her our sleeping together? (Since she claimed that she's eventually sleep with me once she adjusted to her new hormone/menopause medication).