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Does anyone have any suggestions on how to stay friends and roomates with your ex? this has been a 2 yr relationship. we are both dating again, pain is almost through, but sometimes its harder and sometimes its easier. any suggestions are appreciated.

well i broke up with my bf(gay guys) of 2 years several weeks ago. it has been an emotional rollercoaster. i realized that i do love him and want to get back with him. he had already started seeing someone 2 days after the brake up however wanted to stay best friends with me. i had let him know that i cant do that right now, since i do love him more then a friend. after i asked him to get back together with me he thought about it and one day he said he wanted to give us a 2nd chance, but by the night he decided that he had no romantic feelings for me. he is putting this 2nd boy on hold although he is still constantly talking to him. his attitude completely changed and he doesnt care for anything. this attitude is making me very angry. we both decided that it would be best to just hang out with one another for few weeks and cool off other people ie. his new boy interest. i have no idea what to do. i need him to live in this house and he also has noweher to go. the boy that he has met has tons of platonic friends younger then my ex and he likes that. he wants to be irresponsible and careless since he couldnt do that with me. he doesnt have any real friends and i am the only true friend he has. he doesnt want to let me go, but i just hurt constantly. i have changed many ways about me and he isnt responding. he is ok with me when we r having fun, but he is just always angry and bitter and i dont understand why. should i give him time? he isnt getting back together with me anyways. he is also supposed to be leaving for japan in 2 months and will be gone for 3 months. he is completely confused but it seems to be like he wants to sit on as many chairs as possible at one time. i know what i want and this new born attitude is just plain terrible. should i be nice or just tell him to get the hell out, this anger is not helathy. the hurt is turning into the anger. what do you guys think?

my ex and i (2 gay males) broke up few weeks ago and he has already started seeing someone new. i dont have an issue with the new boy, however this brake up and separataion (i took a trip out of the town for a week) made me realize that i do love him and wanted to get back together with him. he doesnt feel the same way and he wants to stay close friends. i cant deal with it, but dont want to kick him out of my house and make him move back in with his parents. can we live together? will i be able to move on? we are going to set up some rules, does anyone have any suggestions? is it the best to just make a clean cut and separate completely for the time being? in many way i feel replaced with this new boy; they are doing the same things that we used to do and that hurts way too much. please help.

Thank you!

well i have asked him to get back together with me. he is completely torn and is afraid that things would be just the same. i told him that this brake made things much clearer and that i cant see myself with anyone else but him. he said that he has to think about it, so i am giving him time. however if he decides not to get back with me, i will have to move on and i cant do that if he is there every night with his new bf and if they are hanging out with friends that we used to hang out with it. i cant be friends with him now, i am hurting way too much. is this a wrong aproach?

we r a gay couple. the house is mine, however he invested almost as much as me. He doesnt want to change anything, he is fine with staying in there and keeping all our pics still in whatever places they are in. shouild i ask him to get back together or should i ask him to leave. i still love him and he still calls constantly. i left town for 10 days, but more and more i feel like getting back to him.

i just got out of a 2 yr relationship. i brought up the topic of brake up, b/c i knew we had very few things in common. however our desire for stability, comfort and partnership was what kept us so close to one another. we still live in teh same house and we are doing our best to stay as close as possible. 2 days after the brake up he found new friends and a new boyfriend. they r over at the house a lot and i kinda like the new guy. however i want to know everything about him. it hurt like crazy but i am extremly supportive of their relationship. they are doing all the same things that we used to do. he still confides in me and when i tried to date someone and he felt hurt i comforted him to no end. i relized that i dont want to be with anyone else but him but dont know what to do. although we have diferent interests personally, we still want the same things in life. should i tell him to get out of teh house, should i ask him to get back together, what should i do?