KrazyKev

Yeah, the thing most people think is that I'm trying to take advantage of her. I've never dated before, neither has she. My intentions are innocent... I like her and want he to come with me to the prom. I'd be too afraid to try and be a pervert by attempting the unmentionable (ahem, sex in any shape or form.) I like her because she's attractive and she's mature, unlike her fellow classman (girls usually mature faster). I like her personality as well, which is difficult to describe. Eh, I'll think about it.

I'd hate to be harsh... but why not call him instead of Instant Messaging him? Perhaps it wasn't really him that was on there, maybe he didn't see your name, who knows?

Sometimes, when I'm at the mall or any public place, I find the eyes of another girl on me ("checking me out"). I'm only 17 and sometimes I think these women are up to early 20's in addition to some girls my age. Sometimes, I don't even notice they're looking sometimes until whomever I'm with says "that girl just checked you out!" Most times, I just smile back and go back to my business. I've given it some thought and I'm thinking of all the chances I've blown. They started one part, all I have to do it start my part. Problem is, what do I do next? I'd prefer that girls answer this since the advice of men is often faulty and worse than the ideas I had.

I'm 17, Senior in High School. I'm thinking of asking a 14 year-old Freshman to the prom. She's pretty mature, and I like her enough to take her to the prom. Some of my classpeople think that's wrong, some don't. I think its okay. Maybe if she were in Elementary School, then it'd be sick. Just think, 6 years from now there would be nothing wrong with it. A 23 year old and a 20 year old. But that isn't exactly valid. Anyway, what does everyone think about this? Am I a sick bastid? What would other people think? The more I think about it, the more nervous I get.

I was in the same situation. I liked a girl Freshman year in High School and she liked me back. I'm certain she did, it was that stare, from accross the room that would go away once you looked back at her. Yet... I did nothing. Basically, all I did was say "hi" to her. I was way to afriad to make a move. Unfortunetly, I don't have a happy ending. As time went on, all the way to Senior year (yes, a 4 year crush) I began talking to her (we had, in fact HAVE 2 classes together). She seemed to be flirting for a bit, and we talked pretty often. Maybe I'm really bad with the signs, but I was certain she liked me. So... I told her I liked her... since Freshman year. Apparently, she didn't like this. I don't know what I did wrong. She suddenly stopped talking to me. Ignoring me. Two of my friends (both girls) said they thought it was adorable that I had a crush on her that long. She didn't think so. I have yet to speak to her with the exception of papers being passed in class. She wasn't worth. I'd hate to scare you but just be careful. At least now that it couldn't have blossomed into a good relationship. If I hadn't told her, I would've gone on wondering. Even with the bad parts, its worth it just to go for it.

"What's your view on abortion?" If she's ever seen Seinfeld, she'll laugh and it could possibly lead to further conversation which would be a light, comical one.. If she hasn't, it could lead to a serious conversation. Hopefully, she isn't too strong one way or the other. In the end, it can then turn comical and turn into a different conversation. I'm not exactly a pro on dating, considering I've never dated. I've tried question on a girl in my class once and its pretty funny. Regardless, be creative. Oh, and NEVER do things they do on TV. It never works that way, like on Saved by the Bell. I used to have that mentality, worst idea I ever had. Good luck man.

I'm the same way you were Lisa. Quiet around strangers, talkative as can be once I get to know people. Its just how shyness goes. Whatever it is, it goes back to our childhoods. Regardless, shyness almost always wears away. When I was a Freshman in High School, I never looked a person in the eye, much less a person of the opposite sex. You just have to realize... it really doesn't matter what the people you'll never see again think. Ask that complete stranger out. If he/she thinks you're a weirdo, you'll never have to hear about it again. If he/she likes you, it could develop into a strong relationship. However, if you see the person everyday, it could lead to awkward times, especially when they say no. Whatever the case, loosen up. The long-term good outweighs the short-term bad.