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There is nothing else but those two reasons that my parents are arguing with me about. He's not ugly, he's just not Tom Cruise. He may not have the best looking skin because he has a freckles and moles on this body, but he has checked those out at the doctor's and the doctors dont say they are a problem. He's now in grad school studying for his PhD. He supports me with my career choice. Even though we're two hours apart he drives up to see me every weekend if he can. However my dad has unwelcomed him to our home. His family all love me, and my parents wanted to use that as an excuse that his family didnt' like me either. However, I have pictures of me hanging on their fridge. My dad wants me to take down all the pictures with my bf in them in my own room. Maybe I should just move out of the house. When I mention me moving out, they say it's because I dont love them and I dont have respect for them. That i'm wouldn't be a good daughter. My parents are just so traditionally asian that it kind of drives me crazy. Right now I have no way of arguing my way out of it because I really can't support myself. I've just graduated and looking for a job. I can't just go live with my bf because that's just taboo in asian culture if we're not married. My parents just make it so hard for me to make my own choices because they make it sound like if I go and try to live my own life, they wont be there for me and support me. I'm not asking them to provide money for me, but just see me as a daughter and not completely disown me when I decide to up and leave the house. I probably should just break up with my bf. Until I can get a job and move out. That'll probably solve all my problems. I just dont know how my bf would take that decision.

I dont know much since I haven't been in too many relationships but one that I have been in ended because my family didn't like him. Now the one that I'm in is probably going to end that way too unless I dont want my parents to see me as a daughter anymore. Sometimes it's not him but his family.

I'm going through a dilemma right now that tears my heart in two. When I was first going out with my bf my parents were fine with it. His parents have met my parents and everything. My whole family knows him. I've been seeing him for over a year and a half. Now that i'm done with college, my parents have decided to tell me that they dont like him. That he's not good enough for me. They want me to break up with him but he has done nothing wrong. To me he is great, but to my parents he just not good looking enough for me. His family has a history of cancer and my parents are afraid that i'm going to be stuck with a husband that is going to leave me a widow early on in life. My dad has even told me that if I stay with him he wont see me as his daughter anymore. I dont know what to do. I love my bf, but is it really worth it? I ask myself that question all the time but I always have two answers. One is that if I break up with my bf, my parents will be happy and i'll have a family. Another is if I stay with my bf, my parents will never give us blessing.