Absy
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I have deleted everything, photos, chats, messages. All
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To express my feelings honestly and respectfully, while also seeking closure and understanding about what went wrong in our relationship. I want her to know that I cared about her deeply and that I'm willing to take responsibility for any mistakes I may have made. Ultimately, I'm hoping to find peace of mind and closure for myself, regardless of the outcome.
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It's been almost a month now, and I'm feeling better than before, but sometimes I still feel sad. I honestly don't know why it's taking this long to get over her and move on. I sometimes feel the urge to text her and get some things off my chest, even though I know she might not care. But I believe saying it will help me move on faster.
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I just feel like crap, and I feel angry, mostly at myself for feeling this way, for getting so attached to someone in a very short period, someone I haven't even met in person, just over the phone. Someone who chose to be with someone else, someone who probably doesn't even care how I'm feeling now. I know I'll get over this with time, but I feel stuck at the moment. I just don't want to take too long feeling like this.
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Thank you all for your replies. So, I called her three days ago and had one last talk with her about how I noticed things have changed between us. She kept insisting that everything is fine. At the end, I told her that it's best if we cut contact because I definitely know there's something wrong, but she doesn't want to admit whatever it is. I asked her if there's anything she would like to say, and she said there's nothing, which made me truly believe that she's no longer interested in me. Now, three to four days later, I feel really sad, and everything reminds me of her. I'm even questioning if I made the right decision by cutting contact. I found out today from my sister that about two weeks ago, around the same time she started acting cold with me, she met another guy. It made me more sad and angry, not the fact that she's with someone now, but the fact that she wasn't honest with me and told me the truth even after asking her so many times about it. I keep thinking maybe somewhere along the line I did something wrong or maybe I played my cards wrong with her, especially since at the beginning she showed a lot of interest in me.
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She used to reach out and initiate conversations as well. I would estimate that I initiate about 60% of the time. However, now she doesn't initiate; she only responds, and sometimes it's late, unlike how she used to be.Everything started about two weeks ago when I confronted her about being distant. She claims there's really nothing wrong.
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At this point, it's more about my own closure than anything else. I understand that she may not care anymore, but if I don't express my feelings, I won't be able to move forward easily. However, I'll take your advice into consideration if you truly believe that it's best to walk away without saying anything.As you pointed out, I've invested a lot emotionally, and it's clear that it's an issue I need to work on.
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When a girl begins to lose interest in you, do you choose to cut her off abruptly, gradually withdraw, or have a conversation with her about it? Perhaps ask her directly if she's losing interest or if there's someone else, expressing that if that's the case, you'd prefer to end things to avoid wasting each other's time. The thought of cutting someone off completely is tough; I've experienced being ghosted before, and it's painful. I don't want to inflict that on someone else. I believe that having an open conversation about my feelings and reasons for ending things would be beneficial for both of us. I want to communicate to her why I'm making this decision, not just to rekindle her interest, but also for my own closure. It would help me move on quicker instead of lingering with thoughts of what could have been if I had just reached out
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At first, I truly believed she was interested. She even talked about us meeting, but it wasn't possible because we didn't live in the same town but now we do. However, recently, I started noticing a change in her behavior, and she began acting distant. I talked to her about it, but she insists that nothing has changed.
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Hmm, so I should just cut contact and move on with my life?
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I want to, but she's saying she's not ready yet
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My sister set me up with her friend, and we've been texting and talking on the phone for over 2 months now. Our conversations have been really good and entertaining. However, during these 2 months, we haven't met yet, although she has hinted that she wants us to meet. Recently, about a week ago, I started noticing a change in her behavior. She doesn't reply as quickly as she used to, her messages are getting shorter, and we don't text or talk on the phone as much as we used to. It seems like she's losing interest. I asked her if something is wrong or if there's something bothering her, but she said no. So, I suggested that maybe we should meet since we've been texting and talking on the phone for months, but she said she's not ready yet. This made me believe that she lost interest. So, I confronted her about it because I don't want to waste my time. I told her that I noticed she seemed a little distant recently, but she denied it. I let it go. Now, after that confrontation, she's starting to act like she used to—texting me often, cracking jokes, and being sweet again. However, I can't help but feel that she's only doing it now because I talked to her about it, and it doesn't feel genuine. What do you think? Is she losing interest, or am I just overthinking things?
