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Your in a very tough complicated situation and none of us can tell you exactly what you need to do, but one thing I can tell you is I think your instincts on your attorney are right on the money. Beware attorneys that don’t seem to care enough about what you want to do. Although there is no substitute for a quality attorney, a bad one can make things 100 times worse.

I can tell you with absolute certainty that computer evidence matters. I happened upon computer initiated infidelity too. Made like I didn’t know, so I hooked up and analog recorded everything she did online in real time for 2 months. Chats, IM’s, email, plans to hookup, everything. When I confronted her with it all, I showed her what I had, with divorce papers all signed by me waiting for her signature. She went to a lawyer and came back with the papers signed, she really had no defense and moved out the next day. So if that’s a possibility for you then I think your therapist is correct.

One of the hardest thing to learn in life is that most people show a front that isn’t their real life, it’s just a little bit of theater. As the saying goes you don’t know anyone unless you walk a mile in their shoes. If you did walk a mile in her shoes you might find out it’s not a life you would ever want. Sure hormonal males are attracted to someone with the attributes you describe. Of course then we grow up, (well most of us anyway). I found myself more attracted to a cute face and smile any day, as most of them are more stable personalities and have their life under control. My advice would be to get closer to your cousin, live the best life for you and be honest with yourself about what you want and don’t accept anything less. That’s something your allowed to be selfish about with no apologies.

Sexual abuse is a very broad term that can cover many, many things. In reality some can be serious some not so much; not to say their not serious to you. Your body “reacted”? It lasted a long time? Your not traumatized about it? Is it possible that you didn’t “dislike” what she did as much as you thought but your confused because your traditionally homophobic? Seems to me that the reason you enraged her is definitely relevant here. You feel disgusted because she “confused” you, and you can’t look your boyfriend in the eye. With anyone I know I would think that someone with such thoughts might have some feelings that they’re not being honest with themselves about. At minimum I would try to be 100% honest with yourself without the interference of cultural bias. If it’s possible for you. Good luck.