faith_less

anyone else please?????

I don't want anything from him I just don't understand why he bothered to get intouch agree to be mates, then totally blank me. If I knew he would stick around in my life even as friends I would be satisfied. I believe if you love someone you just want them to be happy and this is why I have never pesterd him ever, even now I'm hurt he has rejected me again but I ain't gonna act like a loon and start messaging him and going nuts I never have and thats because I respect that he obviously doesn't want me in his life AGAIN. but the thing thats done me heed in is that I was happily plodding along in life and he decides he wanted to desrupt it again and this is what i want to know is what possible reason did he have for getting back intouch! and also has anyone else taken this long to get over someone?

hun any chance at all u could be pregnant??

thanks hun for ur reply he never said I hurt him... (suppose it's logic though I guess) I thought he was happy I was out of his face, as I saw his going away on tour as rejection, hence getting with his friend. It's all a mess, I just want to get over him if I can't have him. I thought it was only supposed to take months to get over someone not years.... and thats what scares me.

OK when I was 18 I was in a relationship with a guy, he was my first serious relationship in which he became my first love. We were both in the forces together. Went through so much while we were together I suffered miscarrage, he got into trouble with drugs and other things....but broke up after a year and a half when he decided to accept a six month tour in another country I was devistated. Whilst he was away I got together with a friend of his ( very childish to try and hurt him) but fell pregnant to his friend and due to circumstances to do with the forces we had to marry. I left the forces after having my first child and the guy in question had since left the forces so decided to focus on my life do some growing up and be a good wife and mother. A couple of years down the line through conversation with an old mutual friend I was given my ex's number, I figured I was ok with life now and happy so text my ex and all was good no feelings as such there on my part but after a couple of months things just fizzled out and we lost touch again (I wasn't bothered by this at all ) and carried on life as normal.. a year after this me and now my ex husband started having major problems (nothing to do with ex) and decided it would be best to split. anyways 5 years on my first love got intouch with me again through a reuniting website and we were happily chatting for about 5 weeks and met up a few weeks ago I have realised that I still love him and don't think I ever stopped. on meeting up I didn't make any suggestions that I had any romantic feelings towards him at all,.. We arranged to meet again the following week and we text a few more times the following days after.... I text him two days before meeting up again to see if we were still ok to meet up and since he hasn't been intouch and you know I feel now as heart broken as I did all them years ago that he has just left it like this again. I just don't understand what he was playing at and I really can't understand how I can still be so in love with him after all this time. Any chaps out there who can let me into the male mind I would be very grateful