I have been broken up now with my G/f for about 4months and we have dated for 4yrs. Now i know i did things wrong and i know i hurt her but we still talk on the phone atleast once a week. We agreed that when things were great they were like unbeatable but when we had problems, we hit rock bottom. Now sense we have been broken up, shes gone out on dates one was 2weeks after. Like it seems like everyone is trying to hook her up with someone they know, her mom, her cousin and friends. So now shes going out on dates with other guys and im not around to talk to her. I am in FL for the summer and she's in Maine. I am not going home until August and i am afraid when i get home things will be hard because she could be dating someone. Shes told me shes not IN love with me anymore but loves me, this is after her most recent date. Now whats that mean? Does she like this guy she went out on a date with? I ask her if she thinks we can have another shot and she says "no i dont think so" and the tone of voice is mean. She feels thats the only thing to do now is to just go our separate ways. I hurt her because 4 months ago i told her i didnt feel like i was in love with her all the time, and i thought taking the summer to ourselves would make things easier and test our true feelings for one another. But i didnt say that, the words "i dont think im in love with you all the time" devistated her. I want to work things out so bad with her because being away for the summers made me realise how much she means to me and my life. I ROYALLY MESSED UP! However, I went home in June because of the passing of my grandfather and while i was home we saw one another almost everyday, we kissed, fooled around but no sex, and had a good time. Now im back in FL and she acts totally diffrent like she hates how she let her guard down and let me inside and get close to her again, but now she has a totally diffrent outlook.
I dont know if im trying to hard and not giving her enough space but it just seems like shes so confused on how she feels. We argue alot to when we are on the phone and of course shes always threatening to hang up on me and then she does. She says im just pushing her away more and more. So i dont know what to do anymore maybe someone else can make sense of this because i cant. I try and give her time and not talk to her and she calls me crying asking why this has to be so hard.
So anyway i guess the real question i have is why is it so easy for her to date other guys and i am down here in FL with plenty of choices but i choose to work, come home, and hang out with new friends. I am always thinking about her, is she doing the same? I feel i dont even matter in her life anymore. If i drink i HAVE to call her and when i know shes out with friends she never calls me... why doesnt she want to call me when shes drunk? Thats the best time to really tell someone how you feel because you speak whatevers on your mind, and its always the truth.
any advice?